How To Be A Better Person with Kate Hanley

Kate Hanley

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Start your day with one simple thing you can do in the next 24 hours to be your better self--not so you can be a perfect person. Or even a good person! Just... better.
I wrote the book "How to Be a Better Person" after "be a better person" topped the list of most popular New Year's resolutions for the first time ever. This podcast builds on the ideas in that book and is intended to be like the little angel on your shoulder, providing a counter narrative to the negative thoughts and impulses that are floating around both out there and inside your own head. My mission is two-fold: to help you keep growing, and to inspire you to use your power for good.
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[Mid-year Check-in]: Re-Connect with a Pre-Pandemic Friend, Ep. 776

Is there someone in particular, or maybe even a group of people you’ve lost touch with in the last couple years? If yes, it makes sense–a global pandemic can really put a damper on your social activities! This week I’m talking about taking stock of where you’re at in general at this point in the pandemic and in the year. And a cool way to do that is to reach out to someone that you’ve lost touch with since the world shut down in early 2020. When the two of you catch up, it’s a great chance to verbally process what you experienced and what you learned from it.  Send me your better person questions! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by:  Zapier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10m
Aug 19
[Mid-year Check-in]: A Fun Way to Think About Your Journey, Ep. 775

How often do you think about how your life has been going up to this point? Not very often, right? I’ve got an exercise for you today that can help you get a little objectivity and clarity on who you are and what you’ve done that’s also just a fun thought experiment, and that is to think about what the title of your memoir would be.  Those prompts again are: A specific incident or place that has shaped you Finish the phrase This is the Story of ____ or A Year of _____ A phrase you heard a lot or say a lot The most provocative thing you believe The Art of Memoir by Mary Karr This episode sponsored by:  Zapier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13m
Aug 18
[Mid-Year Check-in]: Trick Yourself into Doing the Things You Avoid, Ep. 774

So maybe there’s something on your goal list for 2022 that you haven’t been doing–something like exercise, or saving more, or marketing your business or even posting on social media. You’re just not doing it.  Today I’m sharing something that helps me tremendously, and it’s really kinda silly. But hey, so be it. It’s turning the thing you don’t want to do into a game. Specifically, into a game of bingo.  Couple of examples: Home yoga practice summertime bingo Summer reading bingo from The Novel Neighbor in Missouri This episode sponsored by:  Zapier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Aug 17
[Mid-year Check-in]: Normalize Longer Response Times, Ep. 773

As we ponder what we want to do differently in the months to come, I’ve got a suggestion that will help us all take our stress levels down. Can we all just be cool with our electronic communications taking a little longer? This is my prayer (and it should help us dial back that screen use that spiraled out of control out of lockdown and, let’s be honest, hasn’t really come back down.) Is there a way to create a little more space around our digital communications that I forgot? Let me know! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com.  BBC article on increase in texting during pandemic This episode sponsored by:  Zapier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Aug 16
[Mid-year Check-in]: How to Do a Mid-Year Review, Ep. 772

Now that we’re three years into the pandemic–and in the last stages of summer when you can feel fall getting ready to come swinging in like Miley Cyrus on her wrecking ball–we’re in a collective contemplative moment. In today’s episode I’ll talk you through how to check in on your yearly goals, as well as a bigger picture check-in on how you’re doing in general at this particular juncture in time.  Goals review:  What goals have I achieved?  What haven’t I completed but have made progress on?  What haven’t I done because I’m no longer interested?  Is there anything new I want to add, Taking stock in general: What’s going well?  What isn’t going as well as I’d like?  Where is my energy being drawn?  What things am I feeling repelled by?  What do I need more of?  What could I stand less of?  Relevant blog post: 27 Ways to Take Stock for Evaluate Your Life Day This episode sponsored by:  Zapier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13m
Aug 15
[pod swap]: Bob Ross to the Rescue, from Julie Merica, Ep. 771

We all need inspiration in this life and one place I get mine is from my podcast crush–Make Your Damn Bed, a short daily podcast from Chicago-based comedian Julie Merica.  Today I’m sharing one of my all-time favorite Make Your Damn Bed episodes, about the healing powers of watching Bob Ross (the groovy 70s artist who had a painting show on PBS for decades). Get ready to feel soothed, inspired, and ready to find a way to work with any jacked up stuff that lands smack dab in the middle of your day. If you are digging Julie, go subscribe to Make Your Damn Bed! She’s also a great follow on Instagram.  Send me your better person Qs and I’ll answer them on a future episode! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Nutrafol.com (use the promo code BETTER) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10m
Aug 12
[pod swap]: Mise en Place Your Life, from Julie Merica, Ep. 770

I’ve got a podcast crush–a show that I love that I think you will too. It’s Make Your Damn Bed, from Chicago-based comedian Julie Merica, who is just a peach of a human–plus, funny!--and who also offers short daily episodes to help you look for the good and bring your best.  Today and tomorrow I’m running one of Julie’s episodes in my feed. Today’s is all about creating that wonderful feeling of having your shit together by using a technique from the cooking world–”mise en place,” which is a French phrase that means “putting in place” or “gather.” Down South, where I went to high school, you might call it “fixin’ to get ready,” and it can give you a stable platform for the rest of your day–heck, even your life. Julie explains. If you are digging Julie, go subscribe to Make Your Damn Bed! She’s also a great follow on Instagram.  Send me your better person Qs and I’ll answer them on a future episode! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Nutrafol.com (use the promo code BETTER) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Aug 11
[Community]: Finding a Sense of Belonging, Ep. 769

Having a sense of community and a feeling of belonging to where you live is so important–both to a life well lived and your overall wellbeing. Yet, at this stage in the pandemic, so many people are at least considering how and even where they want to live after the pandemic.  Today I’m talking with Melody Warnick, a journalist who has written two great books on the importance of place–This Is Where You Belong and her brand new book If You Could Live Anywhere. Melody can help you figure out where you’re going to feel at home, and then how to up your sense of belonging once you’re there (even if you’ve lived there a long time).  Melody Warnick’s website Melody’s books Send me your better person Qs and I’ll answer them on a future episode! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode is sponsored by: Zapier.com Nutrafol.com (use the promo code BETTER) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22m
Aug 10
[Community]: Is Your Light Trespassing on Others?, Ep. 768

There’s something you might be doing every night without even thinking about it that could be negatively impacting your neighbors, your community, and the environment. It’s flicking a switch and turning an outside light on. Which doesn’t seem like that big a deal, right? But it can have a lot of repercussions that you’ll learn about today.  A link to the New York Times article on light trespassing  Send me your better person Qs and I’ll answer them on a future episode! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Nutrafol.com (use the promo code BETTER) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15m
Aug 09
[Community]: How to Boost Oxytocin, the Hormone of Connection, Ep. 767

Feeling connected to other people feels nice, but can it actually improve your health? Yes it can, and there’s one particular hormone that makes that statement true, and that’s oxytocin, aka the love hormone, which I’m sharing some cool factoids about today, as well as how you can raise it and get the health benefits it brings while ALSO feeling a stronger connection to others.  Study showing oxytocin’s links to aging  Study that showed that watching an emotional video increased generosity to strangers Send me your better person Qs and I’ll answer them on a future episode! kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Nutrafol.com (use the promo code BETTER) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13m
Aug 08
[Grab Bag]: What NOT to Do During a Road Rage Incident (Please!), Ep. 766

Let’s just say that when you’re just out and about, running errands and minding your business, an angry driver honks at you, yells at you, and flips you off. And, your kid is in the car with you. What do you do?  Well, I’ll share what NOT to do in today’s episode, based on a true story! Yep, I’m coming clean on my road rage issues today and sharing a cautionary tale.  Send me your better person Qs! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15m
Aug 05
[Grab Bag]: A Mentorship in Messy Motherhood, Ep 765

This summer I’ve been re-watching the show “Better Things,” with Pamela Adlon, on Hulu, and I I love it for its lessons in reality, and unreality, and how messy motherhood and modern life and also, how despite it all, there are so many moments of truth and beauty. It’s like one of my favorite Dolly Parton sayings, “It’s all wrong but it’s all right.”  Pamela Adlon on Fresh Air Send me your better person Qs! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16m
Aug 04
[Grab Bag]: Awesome Summer Reads, Memoirs, Ep. 764

Summer + reading = two of my most favorite words. Today I’m sharing the 2 memoirs I read in various summery locations that I just capital-L Loved: Easy Beauty, Chloe Cooper Jones Punch Me Up to the Gods, Brian Broome “Fearing For His Life” – Chloe Cooper Jones’ Pulitzer-nominated article Let’s connect on Goodreads Send me your better person Qs! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Aug 03
[Grab Bag]: Awesome Summer Reads, Novels, Ep. 763

Need ideas for what to read this summer, whether you’re hitting the beach or just chilling in bed? I’ve got 4 suggestions for you–all ones I read while I was on vacation and loved. Today I’m talking about the two novels I read, one’s romance, one’s YA, both are awesome.  You Made a Fool of Death with Your Beauty, Akweake Emezi The Falling Girls, Hayley Krischer Let’s connect on Goodreads Send me your better person Qs! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Aug 02
[Grab Bag]: Finding Your Lost Money–A Crazy Story, Ep. 762

What if there was money out there somewhere that belonged to you but you didn’t know it was there? Wouldn’t it be cool if there were a search engine where you could type in your name and see if there were any old paychecks that never made their way to you, or a 401K account from your first job that you forgot about, or a refund from a company. Welp, there is! And I have got a nutty story for you about it.  Planet Money Escheat show Send me your better person Qs! Email: kate@beabetterpersonpodcast.com This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16m
Aug 01
[Vacation]: How to Handle Vacation Letdown, Ep. 761

Have you ever gotten home from vacation and felt… sad? Out of it? Just not like yourself? That very real phenomenon is what we’re talking about today. Both why it happens, and what you can do about it.  This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 29
[Vacation]: Dealing with Vacation Blues, Ep. 760

When you think of vacation, you think of something positive–fun, adventure, relaxation, being carefree. And yes all those things can happen. But sometimes, you can also feel a little sad, displaced, or just…wonky…when you’re on holiday. I call ‘em the vacation blues, and today we’re talking about why they can happen and what to do about them.  This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 28
[Vacation]: Finding the Perfect Beach Read, Ep. 759

Let’s talk one of the most important things about vacation: What book–or books–to read. I mean, vacation time is so precious, you don’t want to be stuck with a book that you’re just not feeling! To help you choose your vacation reading material, today I’m talking with Holland Saltsman, owner of the independent bookstore The Novel Neighbor in the Webster Groves neighborhood of St. Louis, Missouri. The Novel Neighbor website (for Summer Bingo and Mystery Boxes) The Novel Neighbor on Instagram The Novel Neighbor on TikTok This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21m
Jul 27
[Vacation]: Making a Kickass Packing List, Ep. 758

Vacation is fun to think about, but less fun to pack for. I just got back from our first ever two-week vacation and feel, for the first time, that I really nailed the packing. So I’m sharing the packing strategy I used with you! Here are those categories: Exercise, lounging, dressing up, weather, activities, every day, toiletries, entertainment This episode is sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14m
Jul 26
[Vacation]: Staying Healthy While You’re On Vacation, Ep. 757

Raise your hand if you’ve ever gotten home from a vacation and felt like you needed to check into a detox facility. Or, as the saying goes, you needed a vacation to recover from your vacation. Today, we’re talking about how to have plenty of fun when you’re away without overindulging to the point that you feel like crap.  My interview with Ashley Whillans on overcoming time poverty Interview with Ashley Whillans on the benefits of vacation time Study on the benefits of 11 minutes of exercise This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13m
Jul 25
[Perfectionism]: Who Is Your Messy Mentor?, Ep. 756

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Seeing people’s perfectly coiffed selves and photoshoot-ready homes on social media fuels our perfectionism and causes our mood to dip. But… why are we looking at these accounts? What if you filled your feed with people who looked like a real person, complete with bad hair days and a messy room in the background? I call these folks your messy mentors, and if you don’t have any, well… I say start with Amy Schumer.  Wall Street Journal article on the effects of social media on young women’s mental health This episode sponsored by: Nutrafol (promo code ‘BETTER’) Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 22
[Perfectionism]: Your Mess Is Your Message, Ep. 755

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  We all have things about ourselves that we’re not proud of. Maybe we even feel ashamed of. Could be big, little, or somewhere in between. And perfectionism is a natural outcropping of wanting to compensate for those things.  But the truth is, your imperfections, failures, struggles, and things you’ve gotten wrong all give you wisdom and strength. And despite what your inner critic might try to tell you, they are exactly the things you can help other people with. The more you can accept your imperfections, the more impact you can have in your world and the world at large. Let’s discuss.  This episode sponsored by: Nutrafol (promo code ‘BETTER’) Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9m
Jul 21
[Perfectionism]: Kill Your Inner Critic with Self-Kindness, Ep. 754

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  As honorable as it is to care about being a better person and to give a shit about bringing your best and making a difference, we can go overboard with it all and feel like crap if we’re not doing our best at all times.  Today I’m talking to someone who can help us embrace all the ways we’re imperfect– therapist and meditation teacher Tara Cousineau. Tara is author of The Kindness Cure, creator of the course Overcome Perfectionism Through Self-Compassion for the meditation app Insight Timer, and a faculty member at the Harvard Medical School’s Center for Mindfulness and Compassion, Cambridge Health Alliance, MA. Tara’s website Tara’s book, The Kindness Cure This episode sponsored by: Nutrafol (promo code ‘BETTER’) Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21m
Jul 20
[Perfectionism]: Surprising Ways Perfectionism Shows Up, Ep. 753

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Perfectionism isn’t just the type A, dot every i and cross every T form personality that a lot of people associate with the term. It can show up in a lot of sneaky ways, including procrastination, workaholism, impostor syndrome, difficulty delegating, picking fights, and numbing out.  Come listen to learn how, even if you’re not a detail-oriented person, you might still be in perfectionism’s grip.  This episode sponsored by: Nutrafol (promo code ‘BETTER’) Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 19
[Perfectionism]:The Roots of Perfectionism, Ep. 752

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.] Perfectionism is an understandable and natural response to an increasingly uncertain world. It’s a coping mechanism that, at some point, starts to create more problems than it solves.  Albert Einstein said that in order to find a solution, you really have to understand the true nature of the problem. So in this episode, we’re looking at where perfectionism comes from, in the name of being able to find truly helpful ways out of it.  2017 study on the rise of perfectionism among college students Study that shows anxiety is on the rise This episode sponsored by: Nutrafol (promo code ‘BETTER’) Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 18
[Creativity]: “What If It’s Not Any Good?” How to Work with Your Inner Critic, Ep. 751

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  One huge obstacle to creativity is your inner critic, which is a negative commentary that’s coming from inside your head, so it’s very hard to have perspective on. The inner critic has good intentions–it’s basically trying to help ou not look like a fool for doing something badly–but really, sometimes you have to do things badly in order to do the things that matter. Meaning, sometimes you’ve really got to stink up the place. So let’s talk about how to work with the inner critic so that it doesn’t derail your creative efforts, or make them more painful than they need to be.  This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 15
[Creativity]: How to Get Inspired, Ep. 750

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Here are some tried and true ways to get into that state where inspiration is rushing in to meet you, like Kermit and Miss Piggy racing toward each other across a grassy field.  Let’s talk where to go and what to do get those creative ideas flowing.  2012 study about how going on a hiking trip makes you 50 percent more creative than folks who stay home 2013 study on the power of spending time in green spaces to turn on your creative faucet This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Jul 14
[Creativity]: How to Make Art, Even If You’re ‘Not Artistic’, Ep. 749

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  So, HOW do you incorporate creativity into a pretty gosh darn busy life? Like, really… let’s talk nuts and bolts.  Today I'm interviewing Jackie Dishner, an Arizona-based artist, author, and writer who teaches creativity classes. I'm gonna get her to break it down for me like I'm 5 years old so that we can all see our way to gettin' our creative on. Jackie knows not only about how to tap creativity to produce art, but also how to use that creativity muscle to pivot in your business and your life. After this interview I used one of her tips to draw a picture of my husband when he was in the 7th grade–and it turned out pretty well!!  Sponsors:  Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19m
Jul 13
[Creativity]: Two Things to Try When You Don’t Feel Creative, Ep. 748

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Maybe creativity isn’t something that you feel you have. Or maybe it feels elusive. I mean, of course–no one feels creative every minute of every day. But none of that means you’re NOT creative. It just means you might need a way in. I’m sharing two of those ways in this episode. They are: curiosity, and willingness. Listen in for specific questions to ask and things to try to put these two traits into play and get your creative flow going.  (Also, as an update on my personal curiosity list, I have only pursued one of them – garden design. Hey! It’s something.) This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11m
Jul 12
[Creativity]: How Creativity Helps Your Mental Health, Ep. 747

[Note–this is a replay episode! So if you hear an out-of-date reference to COVID, that’s why. New episodes start again July 25.]  Sure, creative pursuits are fun but are they actually good for you? Oh my goodness yes–in this episode we cover the many mental and emotional benefits of simple, everyday acts of creativity can boost your mood, help you process stuff, and increase your experience of  Studies about creativity’s influence on positive emotions  Other studies about creativity’s positive impact on depression and anxiety New York Times article about the family who made one origami crane for every day of lockdown This episode sponsored by: Zapier.com AthleticGreens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12m
Jul 11