Love is one of life’s most interesting words. It’s a great word. one of the best words. It’s also perhaps one of the most overused words. No doubt, it’s a tragedy if you don’t hear that word enough in your life, but I also believe there’s a case to be made for hearing it too much. By too much I certainly don’t mean to imply that anyone can get too much love in their life. Only that the specific word “love” gets overused as a universal stand-in for thoughts and feelings that could often be better expressed in other ways and with other words, if only we were to take the time to do so. And my point is, if you really love someone you should, whenever possible, take the time to say it better. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not a love Nazi. I say “I love you” a lot, and I’d definitely much rather you use the word love too much than too little. All I’m suggesting is the phrase “I love you” isn’t very specific. It means very different things at different times, it doesn’t always hint at what prompted it, and it rarely fully expresses what we’re thinking or feeling. “I love you” may get the conversation started but then let’s not leave the rest of what we’re feeling unsaid. And let’s definitely not leave the person we’re saying it to guessing at what we mean. Instead, let’s do the work to find the words that do the best job. They don’t have to be fancy words. Just clearer, more direct, more honest words. Language is a tool box. Words matter. Actions may speak louder than words but words are pretty much all we have to explain where our actions are coming from. Knowing how important words are Tina and I have agreed to try and reach into that toolbox and beyond the word “love” whenever we can in order to best express our feelings. And I have to tell you, it makes a huge difference. So instead of just saying, “I love you,” we practice digging a little deeper and getting more specific. So instead of just saying, “I love you,” these days Tina is more likely to hear me say things like: I respect you. I admire you. I appreciate you. I’m so grateful for you. I’m overwhelmed by you. I’m so comforted by you. You’re fun. You’re funny. I desire you. You’re so smart. You’re sexy. I feel safe around you. You’re so talented. You’re strong. You’re patient. You’re kind. You’re so easy to be with. You’re the kind of person I aspire to be. You put my heart and mind at ease. You’re my hero. And of course, she hears a lot of my all time favorite expression of affection: “I really like you.” I’m a big believer that the foundation for a truly amazing relationship is not just loving each other, but truly liking each other. I believe in falling in like. So, just a little reminder that there are people in our lives who’d really benefit from hearing how you really feel about them. “I love you” is great. But don’t let love be the only word in the toolbox. Dig down and find other words, better words, more specific words, and then learn to use those words—openly and often—as tools to build yourself, and those you love, a more beautiful life
For our #SmallBusinessShoutout this week, we feature Aaron Melendrez from Uptown Provisions. Aaron is the owner and head chef of Uptown Provisions in Whittier and joins is to talk about what got him into the sandwich making business and some of their unique sandwich combinations.
Mo Kelly joins The Bill Handel Show for this week's edition of Movies, Music & Mo! He and Handel talk about the passing of Olivia Newton-John and the controversial casting of James Franco to play the role of Fidel Castro.
Bill Handel brings on KTLA's Tech Reporter Rich DeMuro for this week's edition of 'Tech Tuesday'. He and Rich talk about the last remaining Blockbuster store and protecting your personal information online.
Bill Handel is joined by Wayne Resnick for this week's edition of Do They Have A Case, where Wayne presents Handel with a couple of cases and Bill utilizes his legal expertise to determine the outcomes.
Don’t know if you’ve noticed but I’ve been on a bit of a “trying” kick lately. Pondering and ruminating about the whole idea of trying, the importance of trying, the risks of trying, the rewards of trying, the ratio of failures to successes for anyone who attempts to try anything. Tina and I were talking about trying yesterday, and how perhaps in our day and age there may be a little too much emphasis on licking our wounds after we’ve fallen off the horse and perhaps not enough encouragement to just get back on the damn horse, lest the fear of falling snowballs into the paralysis of no longer trying to ride. Trying, I’m also coming to understand, is in large part how I judge the prospects, the projects, and the people in my life. Some of you are saying, “Dean, you shouldn’t judge people.” Oh, stop. Of course I judge people. We all judge people. Of course there are a lot of ways we shouldn’t judge people but I will tell you I am unapologetically comfortable with and have no intention to stop judging people in this one way … whether or not they’re trying. I’ve simply decided life is just too short to spend it with people who aren’t trying. If you are trying to, as they say, “phone it in” with me then you can expect that I will being hanging up. And I don’t care how many times you’ve tried and failed. Fall off the horse again and again. I don’t care. As long as you keep learning from each fall and keep climbing back on I’ve got your back. It seems to me that for imperfect, ignorant, and often completely overwhelmed creatures like us, the real magic of life is in the trying. I’ve tried and failed at so many things there’s absolutely no way to keep count. I am not living my life’s master plan. I’m navigating the best I can after a hundred storms and a thousand failures shifted my course a thousand times. The proudest thing I will tell you about myself is this … fool that I am, I just keep getting back on the horse. Could the secret to a truly successful life be just that simple? Just keep trying? I don’t know. Perhaps. I really think it’s in there somewhere. Not wanting to try or thinking about trying, but really actually trying. I love this quote from the famously imperfect but truly great Winston Churchill … “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” But I’ll leave you with an even better one. One of my all time favorites by the poet Maya Angelou … “If you're going to live, live at all, your business is trying.” Life is rich my friends. I know you’re scared. I am too. I know you’ve failed so many times. I have too. But life is filled with so many great and wondrous things. Learning, growing, travel, adventure, building, loving, friendships, family, music, food, sex, hobbies, skills, projects, creativity … I don’t care how good or bad you are at some of them, don’t surrender any of them. Keep trying. “If you're going to live, live at all, your business is trying.” Keep trying, and when the last day comes and all your trying is done, despite the innumerable failures and not ending up where you planned to go, I’m confident you’ll find you’ve succeeded at building yourself a beautiful life.
On Monday, August 30th, Temecula Creek Inn will host and present Oak Grove Center’s 14th Annual So-Cal Chef Open. The event has grown in popularity and reputation with several past Chefs having been featured in lifestyle magazines, television and receiving coverage from influential food critics and bloggers. Past winners include Chef Rosie O’Connor, owner of Provecho Grill and appeared on multiple television commercials and shows including Food Network’s Supermarket Stakeout and the Cooking Channel’s Farmer’s Market Flip. Take a listen to what you can expect!
Business park, Lakeshore in Irvine, is the new home of Bosscat Kitchen & Libations and TEN Sushi + Cocktail Bar in their two, brand new restaurant locations one mile from their previous Newport Beach location. Keeping with its exact concept, Bosscat Kitchen & Libations Lakeshore is a 5,000 square foot modern whiskey focused eatery with a 1,200 square foot patio and an indoor / outdoor bar, open to the vast greenbelt in the center of the business park. TEN Sushi + Cocktail Bar is a 2,800 square foot, beautiful and intimate sushi haven with an 850 square foot patio. Take a listen to what you can expect at these beautiful locations.
Corner Butcher Shop now sells some pretty amazing grills and smokers. John Fuelling shares all plus some really cool grilling techniques. Take a listen!
Legendary drummer Josh Freese shares ALL! Who does he wish he could have worked with? What was it like working with Sting and 9 Inch Nails? What are some wild experiences? Josh doesn't hold back!
Dr. Terry Simpson is talking weight loss tonight. Rumor has it, Kim Kardashian lost all this weight by talking a pill. We arej't 100% sure if that is true but we do know that certain pills do work. Take a listen to Dr. Terry give us the scoop.
On Thursdays, we feature local businesses for our #SmallBusinessShoutout. This week we speak to Brian Herbert who is the general manager at Lost World Laser Tag.
Bill Handel speaks with ABC News Correspondent Jay O'Brien about President Biden signing an Executive Order to aid women seeking help with getting an abortion.
Bill Handel speaks with ABC's Crime and Terrorism Analyst about the U.S. State Department warning of violence against Americans after Ayman al-Zawahiri's killing by the CIA. Brad gives some advice when it comes to travel to ensure you're always prepared.