The ADHD Manual Podcast

Abby Chau, LMFT, ADHD-CCSP

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The ADHD Manual: How to survive with a colorful brain in a black and white world. Living with ADHD in a world built for neurotypicals (people with the most common brains) is like trying to follow an IKEA assembly manual for our Hot Wheels race car track pieces. We could toss this rocket launcher and buy crappy plastic pins. Or we could toss the manual and write our own.

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74 episodes

It's Not Goodbye, It's See You Later

Hello my beloveds. Im here to let you know that The ADHD Manual Podcast is going on hiatus.  I have simply too many ideas that I want to develop, so the pod is taking a break while I work on breathing new life into TAM. I will be back with public updates on November 16th at the latest!  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Extended video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

21m
Sep 21, 2023
Ask Abby: Time Perception & ADHD

Today Im here with something different: a listener interviews me about time blindness/time perception differences in ADHD and how loved ones can support ADHDers struggling with it. Thank you for joining me Laura! If you want to come on the pod with me and discuss an ADHD topic of your choice, please email me! theadhdmanual@gmail.com Uncut audio is on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual, and for a full list of sources visit theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/. Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Extended video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

46m
Sep 07, 2023
August Hate Campaign

TW: medical trauma, gaslighting, death/mortality  Six years ago this week, I almost died. And for some reason, that still bothers me?? So today I spend some time unpacking how trauma recovery might look for the neurospicy.  More information https://www.stoptheclot.org/learn_more/signs-and-symptoms-of-blood-clots/ on the symptoms of pulmonary embolism & blood clots  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Extended video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

45m
Aug 24, 2023
ADHD Eating Tips

Today I give a few tips to address some of the challenges ADHDers might face when it comes to fueling their meat machines.  Follow these nutritionists on Insta for more ADHD-friendly anti-diet nutrition tips:  @adhd.nutritionist https://instagram.com/adhd.nutritionist?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==  @adhd.dietitian https://instagram.com/adhd.dietitian?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

42m
Aug 10, 2023
Ask Abby: Easing Transitions

Today I answer a question about how to ease transitions for yourself and/or your neurodivergent children.  For time, I ended up cutting a section in which I talk more about how task switching involves every executive function. If that interests you, check out the full episode on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual. Heres everything else Ive written and recorded on executive functions https://theadhdmanual.com/category/the-adhd-brain/the-executive-function-chronicles/.  Check out this article https://www.additudemag.com/managing-transitions-adhd-children/ on ADDitude for more suggestions on helping kids with transitions.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

41m
Jul 27, 2023
We Don't Love the Same

As Pride Month comes to an end, queer neurodivergents might be wishing they could have participated more. Heres how I know you did more than enough. "Wild Geese" is from Dream Work https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/dream-work_mary-oliver/265887/#edition=693982&idiq=10204467 (1986) by Mary Oliver. Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

20m
Jun 29, 2023
Living on the Edge w/ The Neurodivergent Rebel

Today Im joined by Lyric Rivera - the badass behind the Neurodivergent Rebel https://neurodivergentrebel.com/ and best-selling author of Workplace NeuroDiversity Rising https://books2read.com/NeuroDiversity-Rising. Join us as we frolic in the intersection of queerness and neurodivergence. Follow Lyric on Twitter https://twitter.com/NeuroRebel, Instagram https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergentrebel/, and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/NeurodivergentRebel/, and support them on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/NeurodivergentRebel.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

51m
Jun 15, 2023
The Shortage Blues

Today Max and I talk about taking a med break, the Adderall shortage, and Pride Plans for the Pod.  If you have thoughts or requests regarding Pride month episodes, shoot me an email theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

37m
Jun 01, 2023
Sensory Overload

*Warning: vulnerability ahead*  Today I am one loud noise away from a meltdown and so not equipped to record an episode. Which is why I recorded an episode.  You need to know that its okay to have days when you are stretched to your limits by ordinary things. Be soft with your heart; you are working so much harder than anyone understands. Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

24m
May 18, 2023
Nitty Gritty Fertility | Chapter Five: Intimacy in Relationships

Today Hong joins me to talk about how the Baby Challenge has affected our sex life, and how our neurodiverse relationship has prepared us for tough conversations.  Check out my other podcast Happily Ever Pasture https://shows.acast.com/happily-ever-pasture  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Follow TAM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theadhdmanual/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual, and Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

42m
May 04, 2023
Thank You, Gramma

My grammas birthday was last week, so Ive been thinking about all the little ways she supported me as a neurodivergent kid.  Happy belated birthday, Gramma. I hope theres always music wherever you are.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

17m
Apr 20, 2023
Hong Asks Me Anything

Today I gave Hum a free pass for any ADHD question she hasnt gotten around to asking.  Listen to my interview with Rachel Scanlon here https://theadhdmanualpodcast.buzzsprout.com/1177088/8903946-self-definition-with-rachel-scanlon.  Follow Rachel Scanlon on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelsafety/ to see when and where her special comes out.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

41m
Apr 06, 2023
Sleep & ADHD

ADHD can disrupt sleep. Disrupted sleep can worsen ADHD symptoms. Worsened ADHD symptoms make it harder to get adequate sleep. Are you familiar with this vicious cycle?  In todays episode (appropriately recorded at 3am), I break down some theories on why ADHD is such a Sleep Bully and what I do about it, with the help of an article https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-sleep-disturbances-symptoms/ by Dr. William Dodson.  You can listen to my new podcast here: Happily Ever Pasture https://shows.acast.com/happily-ever-pasture  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

44m
Mar 23, 2023
Catchin' Up

Were back with a recap of our appointment with a new fertility clinic, as well as a discussion and some tips about the national Adderall shortage. If you have ideas on what Hum and I should discuss next, shoot an email to theadhdmanual@gmail.com! Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

43m
Mar 09, 2023
Nitty Gritty Fertility | Chapter Four: How to Support Your Queer Friends

Happy New Year! People often ask us how they can offer support as were trying to start a family. So we are back with some ideas on how you can help your queer loved ones who are trying to conceive. Current legislation https://resolve.org/legislation/ concerning family building equality (via RESOLVE)  HEALTHY LIFESTYLE SOLUTIONS WITH MAYA ACOSTA https://www.healthylifestylesolutions.org/ Let's make 2023 the best year ever...let's invest in our health. Listen on: Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1479362562   Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5q8AA8MO61Efxl5uggowMf DEAL BY ME PODCAST https://www.buzzsprout.com/2000235 My podcast is about sharing experiences and events to help others and how your own... Listen on: Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1642371643   Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/17qfoLLfQEnLlKnogMyS1A Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual Video episodes available on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

44m
Jan 12, 2023
Holidaze

Most things suck! Were tired! Have a holiday! See you next year! Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

5m
Dec 15, 2022
Nitty Gritty Fertility | Chapter Three: Doc Blocked

Today Hum and I debrief our first clinic appointments, and share what weve learned about ourselves and each other. Video ft. Max is on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

51m
Dec 01, 2022
Nitty Gritty Fertility | Chapter Two: Frozen

Today Hum and I are talking about feeling frozen in the face of a daunting process, and how our different neurotypes and identities might impact our experience. The extended video is on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

45m
Nov 17, 2022
Nitty Gritty Fertility | Chapter One: Our Love Story

Weve been lost in the weeds of How to Have a Child Without Declaring Bankruptcy, so were coming up for air by reminiscing about how we met and fell in love. To view the extended video, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual. HEALTHY LIFESTYLE SOLUTIONS WITH MAYA ACOSTA https://www.healthylifestylesolutions.org/ Are you ready to upgrade your health to a new level and do so by learning from experts... Listen on: Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1479362562   Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5q8AA8MO61Efxl5uggowMf Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

47m
Nov 03, 2022
Announcement(ish)

Today I wanted to share whats been going on in the Chau House, and what the pod might look like going forward. The videos up on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com

32m
Oct 20, 2022
ADHD Housing Accommodations

Today Im talking housing accommodations. And by "talking" I mean "giving a Powerpoint presentation" and by "housing accommodations" I mean the quirks of my living space that make my house more ADHD friendly, and some more information on Emotional Support Animals. To behold my Powerpoint in all its glory, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

44m
Oct 06, 2022
ADHD Relationship Accommodations

Today Im sharing tips for how ADHDers can ask for accommodations in their personal relationships, and how non-ADHDers can foster more meaningful connections with their ADHD loved ones. For ad-free episodes and to read the "Abbys Going to Israel Book" my mom wrote for me when I was three, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual. Its pretty adorable. * I had a lot of trouble with the audio with this new microphone, and I understand that may be unbearable for some. I am working on the transcript now and will be making it PUBLIC and available to all (even non-subscribers) on the Patreon in the next day or two. Thanks for your patience, and it wont happen again. *  THE SCIENCE OF BIRDS https://scienceofbirds.com/ The Science of Birds is a lighthearted exploration of bird biology. It's a fun resource... Listen on: Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1532606850   Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5RKmlf4wdgocsIr6zEGJ2c THE GRIT SHOW - GROWTH ON PURPOSE https://www.TheGritShow.com This is a community for the warriors and the doers. We have the grit, now we thrive. Listen on: Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1636065541   Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/211dYsmDcfhtUlvVbBkVry Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

45m
Sep 08, 2022
ADHD Work Accommodations

Today Im talking accommodations at work - how to ask for them and where you can find resources and support. For unedited video of this episode, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  AskJAN Links (for Employees and Employers): Sample Accommodation Request Letters https://askjan.org/articles/Sample-Language-for-Accommodation-Request-Letters.cfm ADHD Accommodations https://askjan.org/disabilities/Attention-Deficit-Hyperactivity-Disorder-AD-HD.cfm Executive Dysfunction Accommodations Contact JAN  https://askjan.org/contact-us.cfm If you want me to come speak to your workplace about ADHD, email theadhdmanual@gmail.com.  theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

37m
Aug 25, 2022
Body Cue Interpretation

Im back! Today Im talking tips for interoception difficulties; i.e., body signals we might miss and what they mean. For an extended video version of this episode, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual. theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

42m
Aug 11, 2022
Today We Rest, Tomorrow We Fight

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11m
Jun 30, 2022
Neurodivergent/Queer: Intersections & Reflections

This is a brief excerpt from last weeks ADHD & Sex Patreon episode, "My Coming Out Story ft. ADHD" https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual. If you want more juicy details about how growing up neurodivergent influenced my sexual identity, check out Patreon.  theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

26m
Jun 16, 2022
Life Lessons

I am beyond excited, because today I get to show off the amazing minds in my community. Listen to how my neurodivergent peers answered the question: What is a life lesson you have learned (or unlearned) that changed your neurodivergent experience for the better? Thank you to all who shared so generously. I had to cut a couple for time, so for the full-length and video version of this episode, check out Patreon https://patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  If this inspired you to reflect on your own collection of Neurodivergent Life Lessons, its never too late to join the conversation on Twitter https://twitter.com/theadhdmanual/status/1525642934023909376, Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CePolSjgh9O/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/theadhdmanual/posts/1360205854384820, or email: theadhdmanual@gmail.com. Share what youve learned and you could be featured on a larger piece Im curating for the website.  theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

43m
Jun 02, 2022
Ask Abby (and Joe): How to Handle RSD in Relationships

My brother Joe is back with wisdom and insight as we answer an email question about how to have challenging conversations with an ADHD loved one. For a video version of this episode with an extra half hour of content, check out Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

58m
May 20, 2022
Happy Diagnosis Day to Me!

Yesterday was the four year anniversary of my ADHD diagnosis! I took the opportunity to share the nuts and bolts of how it happened and some reflections on how it changed my life. "Which Side Im On" - Blind Pilot  Watch my first video about ADHD & sex on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual.  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual

40m
May 05, 2022
Executive Function Chronicles: Self Awareness

In 3rd grade, a teacher chastised me in front of the class for a "careless" mistake during a project. For twenty years I have bided my time. Now my moment has finally come. Article https://www.additudemag.com/inside-the-add-mind/ by Dr. Brown about ADHD & executive function The first of my videos about ADHD & sex comes out next Thursday the 28th. Become a patron https://www.patreon.com/theadhdmanual to access that, episode transcripts, and other exclusive content.  theadhdmanual.com https://theadhdmanual.com/ | theadhdmanual@gmail.com  Support the show https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual (https://ko-fi.com/theadhdmanual)

35m
Apr 21, 2022