If you really stop and think about it, a thriving marriage is the foundation to an incredible life; a story you get to write every day.
But, unfortunately, we hang out too long in our comfort zones; the pain that straps us to the chair of conflict, the hurt that divides our hearts; the anger that repels the opportunity for emotional healing.
Where are you in crossing the road in your marriage?
Are you the one standing on one side, just watching as everything goes by?
Are you the one standing on that same side struggling to get across quickly so you can move on?
Or are you the one who is standing on one side, looking side to side, strategizing when it's the best time to cross to get to the other side?
Depending on the season you're in, you're the one who is complacent and waiting for life to happen to you. Or you might be in the season of rush just wanting to get it done, whatever it is. Or-- you might be in that season where what matters is your reason.
The K.I.S.S. ~ What if you said yes!
Stop playing the mind games. Stop dragging your feet trying to convince yourself of your next step.
Just ask, "What if I said yes?"
What if I was willing to put in the work? What if I found a coach or counselor that understood my position and not only helped me, but in doing so, impacted my marriage and family.
What if I said yes?
Here are three things a spouse can do to consider taking the next step toward a better marriage:
1. Communicate openly: Start by having an honest conversation with yourself first! Then, invite a trusted confidant to listen to where you are. Finally, when the time is right, you can invite your spouse into the conversation and share your concerns, desires, and fears. By opening up about where you stand and listening to all sides and directions, you can gain clarity and understanding. Remember, communication is key in any relationship.
2. Take a Chance: We can do everything right in our heads, but what about our actions? So take that chance to do what's right in this season. Now, don't do it haphazardly. Use your head and your heart, and with well thought out guidance. In other words, kick anger to the curb, don't take anger with you. Anger is not your decision-maker.
3. Create a New Butt Print: In other words, step out of your comfort zone. Embracing change often requires taking risks. Don't be afraid to try new activities, make compromises, or invest time and effort into improving your relationship. Keep in mind that growth rarely happens within the confines of your comfort zone.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "A risk taken is only a risk if it fails. Otherwise, it's wisdom in motion."
Embrace the unknown and trust that taking steps towards positive change can lead to a brighter future for yourself, with your spouse, and for your family.
Remember, love is an ongoing journey that requires effort, commitment, and the willingness to evolve together. Don't let fear hold you back from saying yes to a happier, healthier marriage.
"When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too." - Paulo Coelho
What if you said yes?
