The act of forgiving not only heals wounds but also cultivates a deeper connection between a couple, fostering a sense of renewal and grace.
It's this energy that keeps engaging the heart to expand wider and deeper.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "Forgiveness changes you! You can't forgive and not be changed yourself."
When you are considering forgiveness, you must look at the resentment meter.
Resentment is a complex emotion that arises from feelings of unfairness, bitterness, or anger towards someone, often stemming from past grievances or perceived injustices. It can slowly erode a marriage and create barriers to communication and emotional intimacy.
Letting go of resentment is crucial for healing and restoring harmony in marriage. And that's all in the process of forgiveness.
"If you forgive, resentment can't be borrowed." ~ Kristianne Wargo
You can't go to your heart and withdraw resentment. It won't exist because you forgave.
Now, as you may know, this week is Holy Week. And today, we are in between the stage of the crucifixion and the resurrection.
And so I want to take a more direct approach to challenge our thinking on how we can understand the depth of forgiveness and why it's so powerful in marriage.
The concept of forgiveness in the context of Jesus Christ's sacrifice on the cross for our sins holds profound parallels to marriage and sacrificial love.
Just as Christ demonstrated the ultimate act of forgiveness and sacrificial love through His crucifixion and resurrection, couples can draw inspiration from His example to cultivate forgiveness and selfless love within their marital relationships.
And if you are going to do this, you've gotta ready your heart God's way.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Ready your heart God's Way!
1. Unconditional Love: Just as Jesus showed limitless love and forgiveness towards humanity by sacrificing Himself for our sins, you can aspire to embody a similar spirit of unconditional love in your marriage.
Sacrificial love entails putting aside personal desires and ego-driven needs to prioritize the well-being and happiness of one's sweetheart. You can nurture a deep and enduring bond built on grace, compassion, and empathy by choosing to forgive readily and love sacrificially.
2. Redemption and Renewal: The resurrection of Jesus symbolizes the victory over sin and death, offering a path to redemption and spiritual renewal for all believers.
In a marital context, forgiveness serves as a catalyst for redemption and transformation within the relationship. By extending forgiveness and seeking reconciliation, you both can experience a renewal of trust, harmony, and intimacy, allowing for growth and healing to take place. This process of renewal through forgiveness paves the way for a strengthened and revitalized marriage.
"Forgiveness changes you! You can't forgive and not be changed yourself." ~ Kristianne Wargo
3. Servant Leadership: Jesus didn't come to earth to be served, but to serve! He exemplified servant leadership through His acts of compassion, humility, and sacrifice, setting a model for believers to follow in their interactions with others.
In marriage, practicing forgiveness and sacrificial love involves adopting a servant-hearted approach towards one's spouse. By seeking to serve rather than be served, spouses can create a culture of mutual respect, support, and understanding within their relationship.
Can you imagine how different marriages would be if you married to serve instead of expecting to be served?
Through acts of selflessness and forgiveness, you can emulate Christ's example of servant leadership and cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling marriage centered on sacrificial love.
In essence, the power of forgiveness in the context of Jesus Christ's sacrifice and resurrection underscores the transformative impact of forgiveness, sacrificial love, and redemption in marriage. By drawing parallels between Christ's example of forgiveness and sacrificial love and applying these principles to your marriage, you, as a couple, can create a deep sense of compassion, grace, and unity, building a bond that reflects the divine love and forgiveness demonstrated through Christ's sacrifice on the cross.
