FEELING STUCK IN A TOXIC AND/OR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND KNOWING YOU NEED TO GET OUT BUT YOUR FLOODED WITH EMOTIONS, FEAR, AND UNCERTAINTY; FOCUSING ON THE HOW AND NOT THE WHY?

The how will come, even when it feels like it's impossible, even when it's scary, even when you don't have all the answers. Let all the reasons why guide you away from the toxicity. Know that healing takes time but it feels less overwhelming when you let go of the big picture and just put one foot in front of the other- one step at a time!

We all deserve to be happy, to be respected, and to be loved. Being in a toxic relationship breaks you down, you lose yourself, you lose your confidence; feeling hopeless and stuck. You find all the reasons to justify why you stay and continue talking yourself into all the reasons why you can't leave. 

As someone who knows what it's like to feel stuck; knowing I wanted to get out 3 years into our relationship yet staying for over 10... raising a daughter as a "family" and not wanting to take that away from her- yet she was witness to a relationship that was NOT the example of what love and happiness looked like. Not having the financial stability to go out on my own and not wanting to move back in with my parents; telling myself one day i'll get out just not today.

Now that i'm out and happily married to my best friend I look back and think of how many years I allowed myself to be unhappy and for what? I know it was not as simple as just leaving, but I also know that if I would have focused on the reasons why I needed to get out rather than how i'm going to get out, I would have saved myself and my daughter a lot sooner. Regardless, I got out and I want to help you or someone you know get out too! 

I'm not saying I want to tear down relationships, I believe in marriage and not giving up just because things get hard; however, there is a difference between fighting for your relationship and fighting for your freedom; sometimes even fighting for your life. Together, we can end the cycle of abuse and help empower each other through the tough times, knowing there IS light at the end of this dark and scary tunnel... we just have to take it one step at a time! 

-XO-

Stacy

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