Dysfunctional: Seven Relationship Side Effects



7 Relationship Side Effects



1. We blame each other 



Genesis 3:12-13 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done? ” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” (NIV)



2. We deal with out of control angry



Genesis 4:5 but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast. (NIV)



Genesis 4:8 Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. (NIV)



3. We deceive and lie to one another



4. We hold people’s past against them



Luke 15:28-30 “The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. 29 But he answered his father, ‘Look! All these years I’ve been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’ (NIV)



5. We are jealous of one another

6. We betray and hate one another



2 Timothy 3:3–4 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. (NLT)



7. We are not faithful to one another



7A. People are not faithful in marriage



7B. People are not faithful to their families



Malachi 4:6 He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction.” (NIV)



Matthew 10:21 “Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rebel against their parents and have them put to death. (NIV)



7C. People are not faithful in friendship



Proverbs 18:24 One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (NIV)



7D. People are not faithful to build God’s Kingdom together



2 Timothy 4:9–10 Do your best to come to me quickly, 10 for Demas, because he loved this world, has deserted me and has gone to Thessalonica. Crescens has gone to Galatia, and Titus to Dalmatia. (NIV)