Adulting with Michelle Buteau and Jordan Carlos
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FINE AF from the Bell House stage, Michelle and Jordan sound the air horn for the triumphant return of comedian, actor, and friend of ze pod, Liza Treyger! Jordan sheds light on Texan parlance and reclaims the origin of the cowboy with FACTS (welcome to his Tex Talk), Michelle serves a hilarious BTS moment from "Survival of the Thickest," proving tea is best spilt on a hot mic, and Liza opens up about letting go of old habits and relationships that don’t serve her while entering her ‘Thrive Era.' Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Live at the Bell House, Jordan and Michelle turn UP as they welcome ICONS of the highest order, Afro-Electro-Disco-Space-Punks, The Illustrious Blacks! Michelle prompts a discussion on 'Yo Mama' jokes and the genre’s forgotten (aka cringe) pop culture moments, Jordan arrives to the chat with an Adulting question for Michelle who serves a WIN-WIN solution, and Manchildblack and Monstahblack graciously share the origin story of their 20+ year creative / romantic collab! Let the bass drop!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week Michelle and Jordan are honored to be in conversation with costume designer, co-founder / co-conspirator of Black Trans Liberation, and Adulting kindred spirit, Qween Jean. Jordan “No Regrets Carlos” tells the tale of younger Jordan capturing the attention of a Hollywood bombshell, beyond college parties and her first taste of Alize, Michelle shares why Miami will always be in her heart, and through memories of childhood and the writings of James Baldwin, Qween Jean discusses the journey to living her truth—so you can live yours! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s an Adulting Homecoming at the Bell House when Jordan and Michelle bring it in with four-time Grammy-winning rapper / NYT best-selling author / co-founder of The Roots (THAT PART!), Tariq “Black Thought” Trotter. Jordan walks back in time to the fateful night he met his man crush in a bar (DENZEL!!!), in the midst of mistaken identity Michelle exemplifies going high with humor and class while seated in economy, and Tariq arrives, "Irk List" in hand, 1.) to hilariously go off on the surprising things that yuk his yum (shoelaces???), and 2.) to sound off on any and all things adulting including navigating jealousy in oneself and others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Live from Brooklyn’s Bell House, Michelle and Jordan welcome Ted Lasso writer, actor, and podcast host of Conversations with People Who Hate Me, Dylan Marron. Jordan reflects on his adulting journey from BC (before Costco) to his present 40s form (doomsday pantry as the new stunting and flossing), Michelle shows her earliest receipts for preparedness when she details her intense, age 5 morning routine, and Dylan, married for 8 years now(!!!), explains why productive fights are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Michelle and Jordan welcome a bucket list guest to the Bell House stage—the icon, the symbol, the legend, Grammy-awarded singer-songwriter, Norah Jones [AIRHORN!!!]. Jordan shares a harrowing story that sparks a family debate over the diff between a pet and a pest, Michelle recounts the dramatic transformation of her eccentric roommates cat from white to pink fur—an NYC tale (or is it tail?) as old as time, and Norah speaks candidly about developing intuition as an artist, powering through stage mishaps, and one hilarious meet-cute. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Live at the Bell House BK, Jordan and Michelle welcome internet sensation and host of the super viral "Recess Therapy," Julian Shapiro-Barnum (hold for applause!). Michelle’s toddler turns the tables when he R-E-A-D-S her during bedtime stories, Jordan perfectly times his edible kicking in to deliver his thesis on country music’s BLACK origins (FACTS Y’ALL - BIG FACTS!), and fresh from a break up with serial monogamy itself, Julian opens the floor for questions--he’s an open kids book, y’all!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Live from Brooklyn, Michelle and Jordan bow down to Black Hollywood Royalty, mother / daughter ICONS of the stage / screen, Jillian Hervey of "Lion Babe" and THE Vanessa Williams. Jordan delivers a convincing reason for NOT working with male trainers (i.e., unconfirmed whereabouts on Jan. 6), Michelle tells a cautionary tale for the front row seats at her future shows (the moral of the story—know your dosage!), Jillian shares how motherhood banished her inner critic and led to new heights as an artist, and Vanessa looks back on the powerful and the hilarious moments from her career—not to mention that long lost cassette of Prince demos (you gotta hear this!!!). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sound ALL the air horns!!! Jordan + Michelle are back and LIVE AF at Brooklyn’s Bell House, and this week they welcome to the stage actor / comedian / friend of the pod, Sydnee Washington. Michelle receives a full-on flower shower when she arrives fresh with not one but SEVEN NAACP nominations, Jordan shares hilarious / unsettling moments from a recent trip to Charleston (it was giving "Get Out," but those shrimp and grits tho!), and Sydnee revisits her twenties (literally last week!) to pluck a few gems of wisdom and realness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Michelle and Jordan hit ALL the corners this week with author, activist, journalist, and media strategist, Raquel Willis. All is illuminated when Jordan (literal adult) reveals an early childhood hero, Michelle discusses the nuances of making requests of the service industry (it hits a little different at home!), and Raquel shares what it’s like to date as a visible and accomplished Black transgender woman (so many sweaty stans and chasers!!). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Jordan and Michelle bring out their bedazzled tambourines for triple threat (actor, director, producer!!!), Tasha Smith! Michelle arrives fresh from the billing panic room after waking up to no internet (autopay has entered the chat), Jordan comforts Michelle by singing his sonorous house cleaning spiritual, and Tasha shares why acknowledging all she's overcome motivates her to create JOY and LOVE—watch your step, she's dropping bars! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Michelle and Jordan head to Holland to get personal and just a little “private” when they are joined by Dutch singer / songwriter / artist without borders / baker of exquisite breads / friend, Nicole Bus! Jordan is inadvertently unmasked as a Karaoke King while giving Michelle her flowers for hosting yet another epic house party, Michelle advises a listener to check their wants and needs before honoring unfamiliar requests in the bedroom (read: butt stuff), and in sharing her inspired writing process, Nicole walks us through her life as an artist in Amsterdam. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s a family affair this week as Jordan and Michelle warmly welcome esteemed executive producer / pizza machine / showrunner for "Survival of the Thickest," Danielle Sanchez-Witzel. Jordan passionately reviews parenting scenes from a Berkshires restaurant (are they ok?!), Michelle emphasizes that caretaking skills are not exclusive to parenting, and though showrunning can easily run your life, Danielle courageously pushes back with vulnerability. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Michelle and Jordan bring it in with writer, actor, OG podcast host, a BOSS / also THEIR BOSS, Georgia Hardstark! While bonding over “vintage” grandma names, Jordan transports Michelle and Georgia to the fifth dimension when he chimes in from his own family tree with names that could ONLY come from the Mississippi Delta, Michelle’s twin toddlers test her anti-goop parenting style when “F” bombs are dropped and feelings are hurt (compassion, joy, and structure FTW, y’all!), and in the everlasting debate of shoes on / off households, Georgia weighs in, as one does when they have a WikiFeet! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordan and Michelle serve up Adulting BTS when they pull back the curtain for writer / actor / comedian / Buckeye / international field hockey phenom, Beth Stelling. Michelle's fond memories spur an introduction to pickleball (or is it tickleball?!), new research suggests life expectancy in America has shifted—Jordan shares the good news (men are down 6 years!), and Beth (real talk) reveals what it took to film her comedy special PLUS lessons learned since! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Michelle and Jordan take Black the night with comedian / actress / organ donor to the stars / selective history buff, and good friend, Sasheer Zamata. Jordan's kids have started doing an impression of him (which has daddy putting his phone away), Sasheer shares what makes New Orleans her go-to destination to refresh (Voodoo), and Michelle prompts a moment of reflection when she asks, what WON'T you do for money? (Bad answers only, y'all!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week Jordan and Michelle are joined by FOP (friend of the pod) comedian / actor / auth-uh / podcast host / beloved surrogate sibling, the multi-talented Dan Ahdoot. Dan’s arrival prompts Jordan to shed his middle-child identity and lean into his other side (big brother feat. therapist cosplay), Dan shares his thoughts on radical honesty vs. finessed white lies (hear him out!!!), and Michelle takes a deep breath and asks: What is my toxic trait? The answer, tho!!!! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week, Michelle and Jordan welcome author / afro-futurist / pleasure activist / potentially Jordan's long-lost cuz, adrienne maree brown. Jordan gets into the 10 going on 49 of it all (his daughter's current Wednesday Addams phase), Michelle goes back to the origin of her party-host-super-powers, and adrienne shares tips for safely seeking sexual pleasure in group settings. BYO-Astroglide! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week, Adulting is giving heavy seen, felt, AND heard energy when Jordan and Michelle welcome comedy / acting / writing triple threat, Ms. Pat. Jordan accepts affirmations after courageously sharing his childhood journey from outie to innie, Michelle gives a refresher on karaoke night etiquette, and real talk—Ms. Pat speaks on what 31 years of marriage teaches and takes (honesty and therapists!!). See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Adulting levels up in the game of self-care / self-compash aka self-compassion when Jordan and Michelle invite comedian / actress / poet / foot MASS-age aficionado, champion of drawing hot baths, and friend of the pod, Catherine Cohen. Michelle walks us through the layers of grief that follow being fired…by her toddler son, Jordan unlocks secrets of the glove compartment and melts Michelle’s reality, and Catherine explains how to extend southern hospitality as guest rather than host—bet you didn’t know she’s also a Texan! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week Michelle and Jordan bring it all the way home with writer, actor, host, Tony nominee, near and dear ground-breaker, Amber Ruffin. AIRHORN!!! Jordan reveals how he, a tired dad, transforms into the Black member of Steely Dan for parent teacher conferences, Michelle breaks down the pros and cons of relocating to Amsterdam, aka the ultimate safe space...sorta…and Amber shares tales from the writer's room—it's giving Montessori school meets Mad Men. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Cuddly as a cactus and charming as an eel, he’s your new favorite snarky talk show host. Join The Grinch (and his faithful dog Max) each week as he rants against Christmas cheer and roasts celebrity guests like chestnuts on an open fire. Starring Saturday Night Live’s James Austin Johnson as the notorious curmudgeon and broadcasting straight from Who-Ville, will The Grinch send these famous folks back down Mt. Crumpit, or will they soften his stance against Christmas and grow his heart three sizes? Grab your hot cocoa and cozy slippers and listen along to find out! Listen to ‘Tis The Grinch Holiday Talk Show: Wondery.fm/Grinch See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week, Jordan and Michelle pull up a boudoir chair for comedian/actress/activist/friend maker of old-timey stamps and indefatigable painter of walls, Franchesca Ramsey. Jordan relives the brief moment he was transported out of his body while in the bedroom, Michelle dons her myth-buster hat to advise a listener that textbook flirting is no match for chemistry, and Franchesca shares tried and true tips for crafting thoughtful thank you cards and classy clap backs. It’s giving full-on Wes Anderson and we are here for it! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Southern hospitality is being served with a shot and a beer as Michelle and Jordan go off the grid with Adulting's Lone Star correspondent / friend of the pod, comedian Tone Bell. Jordan recounts learning the hard way on what gifts to give his beloved (Telfars henceforth!!), Michelle suggests a great reason to leave the "college degree box" unchecked when looking for a partner (negative student loans!!), and Tone proposes a very rational plan for sharing public spaces with exes. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
It's a lucky day because Jordan and Michelle are joined by comedian / Blacktress / esteemed show host / friend / maven of guest room etiquette, the one, the only, Nicole Byer [CUE AIRHORN!!!]. Jordan opens up about his Xbox addiction and subsequent intervention via second-floor window defenestration, Nicole shares her hilarious highlights from a visit to Amsterdam, and Michelle gently encourages a nostalgic listener to seek new, present-day experiences. It's a vibe, y'all! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Jordan and Michelle invite writer/actor/and musician (Triple Threat!!) E.R. Fightmaster to hash it up and hash it out. Jordan presents his withering Ted Talk on Goldilocks: The First Documented Case of Karen-ing, E.R. rewinds to the origin of their vintage car fetish, and Michelle demonstrates how to beautifully stock a pantry with staples and surprises. It's a whole spice rack of fun!! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week, Michelle and Jordan welcome hilarious comedian / writer / actor / friend / non-essential organ donor (JK), Jes Tom, to the pod. Jordan goes full-on Moth Story Hour and tells the tale of performing at one of NYC’s historic armories, a “balloon party” at Paradiso has Michelle considering retirement in Amsterdam, and Jes explains why leaving Queens for Brooklyn has left them feeling like an expat returning to America. Insert earbuds! This episode was recorded before the SAG-AFTRA strike. #Noscabbing! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this ep, Jordan + Michelle chop it up like a fresh shallot with model / actor / author / activist / ballroom royalty, and THE ICON, Dominique Jackson (POSE!!!!), for a very special convo about homecomings, ancestors, and opening up to the growth of others. This episode was recorded before the SAG-AFTRA strike. #Noscabbing! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Black with more Bell House BK love, Jordan and Michelle are joined by comedian / writer / actor / Texan / certified Aquarius, Devon Walker. Hold your merit badges as Jordan shares a wonder years moment from his days as a Boy Scout, Michelle highlights advantages of growing out of the nightlife (da club) and into refined adult socializing (day drinking), and as a recent New York transplant, Devon shares his take on The Big Apple and why NYC cops are different. This episode was recorded before the SAG-AFTRA strike #Noscabbing! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Michelle + Jordan parlay with comedian, writer, friend, and the unofficial Burrow President of Queens, Hari Kondabolu. Jordan reveals the agony of a "Jordan’s Choice" moment while on vacation, Michelle emphasizes the importance of having your partner’s back while both home and abroad, and Hari shares recent revelations of being a new parent—“cool dad” is a supporting role. This episode was recorded before the SAG-AFTRA strike. #Noscabbing! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
