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After the war in Bosnia was finished in 1995, there were many projects about the war where soldiers, journalists and politicians told their story. However, for those who were children at the time, there was none. The invitation of Jasminko Halilovic who decided to create a platform for children to tell their story, first turned into a book project. Then, people started to send their childhood objects from war. Suddenly, the book became the greatest museum Project for War Childhood. Based on storytelling, the museum not only created a platform but also an opportunity for healing and studying peace. It also went beyond its own borders to even Japan, Syria and Ukraine.
In this episode, I spoke with Gael Cochrane who works at Community Justice Scotland as a Learning, development and innovation Lead. She explained what it means to have a trauma-informed practice involving issues such as empathy; choice; empowerment; trust and collaboration; why this is needed; how someone working in the criminal justice system or in any mediation can realize that someone has trauma; and the relationship between trauma, criminal behavior and shame. These can also help people working in any public capacity to handle situations humanely.
In this episode, I spoke with Ilan Bass from UK who is a community mediator. He explained what community mediation is; how he got involved in it; and gave examples of community mediation cases in neighborly disputes such as noise; life style clash; pets and boundaries while also taking about how public institutions can support mediation.
Müzakere ve arabuluculuk eğitimi almak, bir kişinin kariyerinde ne tür farklı imkanlara kapı açar? Süleymanoğlu kendi kariyerinden çeşitli örnekler verdi. Türkiye’de son on yılda arabuluculuk kanunu sayesinde neler başarıldığına değindi. İlerleme gösterilmesi gereken alanlar arasında eğitimler; ekonomik sıkıntıların işin nitelikli yapılması ile uyuşmaması; interdisipliner olunmaması ve arabuluculuğa meraksız yaklaşılması; yapay zekanın vaatlerinin anlaşılmaması; ve en önemlisi kullanıcıların görüşlerine önem verilmemesi gibi konuları ele aldık.
Bu bölümde kolaylaştırıcılık nedir ve çok katılımcılı süreçlerde ne işe yarardan başladık. Şirket olsun apartman toplantısı veya işyeri olsun bir kolaylaştırıcı eşliğinde toplantı yapmanın nasıl katılımcı ve daha kolay uygulanan, kavgasız sonuçlar yaratabileceği konuşuldu. Türkiye'de çevre konusunda devletle toplum arasında başvurulmuş bir projeden kolaylaştırıcılık örnekleri verildi.
Released on the Centenary of the Republic of Türkiye, in this episode I am talking to Alper Koç who is an entertainment media lawyer. He will tell us the different approaches taken to conflicts in the entertainment media business whether it is between talent and business or business to business. He will also give examples of platforms such as Netflix and others and discuss what they value in conflict and how the business is changing. Lastly, he will talk about the dispute involving Netflix series of Atatürk also released today.
In this episode, my guest was Belinda Hopkins who is the director of Transforming Conflict. We discussed how a restorative approach through circles can help students build relationships and values at schools. This would hence help with conflicts at school whether with fellow students or teachers but also among members of the administration. Belinda is a provider of training and consultancy in the field of restorative approaches in schools, residential care and other youth settings.
For over 100 years, the Canadian government in cooperation with the churches has taken away indigenous children from their families never to return them. They assimilated them, changed their religion and did much more. My guest Nergis Canefe explained how this was done and after all the pain and loss for the indigenous communities, there can be reconciliation between the aboriginals and Canadians of all sorts including those who arrived in the country recently. We discussed whether the adoption of the National Day of Truth and Reconciliation and similar measures can be examples and how society can play its part in healing.
Sanatçı ve hoca Işıl Eğrikavuk, toplumsal sanat işleri yapıyor. Bunlar başkalarıyla işbirliğine ve üretime dayanıyor. Ama ne sanat eğitimi ne de piyasa mekanizmaları anlaşmazlığa açık değil. Yıllar içinde başkaları ile bu süreçte neler yaşıyor; ortaya çıkan anlaşmazlıkları çözmek için neler yaptığını fark ediyor ve bu anlaşmazlık çözme kaslarını nasıl geliştirmek gerekiyor konuştuk.
In this episode, I interviewed the Anglo-German artist Angela Findlay who with her amazing book "in my grandfather's shadow" talked about her German grandfather who was a general in the German army. She described how trauma, guilt and shame gets transferred inter generationally; how to forgive parents; what needs to be done to understand trauma better.
My guest in this episode is David Faro. He and I talked about crisis management and especially what happens in a crisis that may lead to conflict; how to improve communication and learning from a crisis. He explained how time pressure and high stakes can cause curse of knowledge especially when experts communicate with the public during a crisis. He also talked about hindsight bias and outcome bias that make crisis even more difficult to handle leading to conflicts when the crisis is over. He suggested what kind of policies can be developed to handle these behavioral tendencies.
Andrea Kupfer Schneider is a Professor of Law and Director of the Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution at Cardozo School of Law. She taught ADR, Negotiation, Ethics and International Conflict Resolution for over two decades. She co-authored several textbooks and books in the field. She explained how negotiation skills were needed in everyone’s life and why law schools needed to teach negotiation. She talked about her work about gender and negotiation and what skills women have in negotiation. She also explained that as times changed, men also needed to up some of their skills in negotiation. Lastly, she described how work places can be better equipped if they have more women in managing positions.
Depremlerden sonra kaçınılmaz olarak sorumlu arayışı başlıyor. Ancak bu sürecin mahkemelerde yapılması halinde, hem sonuç almak yıllara yayılıyor hem de ispat meseleleri gündeme geliyor. Oysa depremzedelerin bir de bununla -hele avukatsız- uğraşacak takati olmuyor. İşte bu nedenle başka ülkelerde örneği görülen komisyon fikrini ele aldım. Sadece depremzedeler değil bu süreçte rol oynayan yerel ve merkezi yönetim ve inşaat sektöründen kişilerin de birbirini dinlemesini sağlayacak bir mekanizma toplumsal öğrenme için gerekli. Programda Ken Feinberg’ün görev yaptığı 11 Eylül Komisyonu’ndan bahsetmiştim. Komisyona dair Netflix filminin traileri burada: https://youtu.be/OOAemeB9CAw. Feinberg ile yapılan podcast mülakatının linki de burada: https://gimletmedia.com/shows/without-fail/5who4m/the-tragedy-expert.
Emily May is the co-founder of Right To Be, an NGO that works to fight against street harassment. They designed a bystander intervention program for people that want to help the person who is being harassed. These tactics are called 5Ds: delay; document; distract; direct and delegate. They are being consulted by many governments and transportation authorities. The picture of the episode was taken in London Underground. When one goes to the website in the link, it can be seen that similar tactics are there for those who want to help someone being harassed and to do so safely. She also told me how they were cooperating with the rest of the world but also combating not just Street harassment but harassment in all its forms.
Donna Douglass Williams is the Head of Ombuds at Pinterest, one of the first Ombuds programs in the tech sector. Ombuds is a confidential, impartial, informal resource that provides support to the workforce in navigating work challenges, developing constructive resolutions to conflicts, and aims to promote an inspired workplace culture. Donna described what led to the development of the ombuds program and how work places shifted from fighting conflicts to another culture. She described what kind of issues arise as conflict at work and how ombuds programs will evolve in the future.
What is a restorative walk; why was this needed; what is about walking that is repairing people; what kind of walks are asked for and does it also work for special groups
In this episode, my guests were two women from the Parents Circle. This is an organization comprised of more than 600 Palestinian and Israeli bereaved families who believe in non-violence and reconciliation. Robi Damelin and Layla Alsheikh talked about the importance of reconciliation and seeing the other as human and developing empathy despite the ongoing occupation and warfare in their countries.
Citizens' assembly is a deliberative democracy model especially for talking about contentious issues in society. It worked in Ireland to resolve a never ending contentious issue like abortion. How was this model developed; how did it work; how were citizens selected, on the basis of which criteria; what were the principles employed during the process; can it be used in other countries?
After teaching at Harvard, Bob Bordone started a You Tube channel where he discusses negotiation principles in many new spheres in life. He explained what kind of projects he worked on as a clinical professor of negotiation and mediation at Harvard; how he decided to focus on public policy issues in negotiation; how he started his YouTube channel; and his ideas/initiatives about using negotiation in the most contentious issues in politics in the US.
In this episode, I present two persons whose countries are in conflict. One is Ukranian and she stayed. The other is Russian and he left. This is a platform to tell their stories while also showing suffering, resilience and connectedness. Photo: Taken by me, in Odessa's Potemkin Stairs in 2005.
What are the conditions that make an encounter with someone who killed your dad possible; what are the reactions from people surrounding one to such an initiative; how can one overcome their sense of fear and betrayal; what can help the peoples of conflicting countries?
What is conflict coaching; why is it needed; the necessary conflict competencies needed for people in management; how can a manager's style of conflict effect new generations and more.
Figen Murray, Manchester Arena bombalamasında oğlu Martyn Hett'i kaybetti. Bundan çok kısa bir süre sonra katili bağışladı. Kendisi ile bağışlamak ne demek; niye bağışlamak istedi; bu karara nasıl tepkiler aldı ve teröre karşı neler yaptığını konuştuk. Murray çalışmalarıyla hem ödül aldı hem de İngiltere'de bir kanun değişikliğinin yolunu açtı.
Ailbhe Griffith explained how the restorative justice mediation process helped her; why the criminal justice system failed her; her needs after the incident and her expectations from the process and how women can support each other.
Devletin ceza yargılaması yapmasının toplumlarda yarattığı sonuçlar neler? Suç mağdurları açısından ne tür sorunlar bulunuyor? Failler bakımından ne gibi sorunlar var? Onarıcı adalet mekanizmaları buna karşın ne sağlayabilir? Bir çok ülkede nasıl ortaya çıktı? Türkiye’de ceza davalarındaki uzlaştırma niye onarıcı adaletle ilgili değil? Bosna’da toplumlar arasındaki iyileşmenin nasıl sağlanabilir?
Geçiş dönemi adaleti nedir; nasıl ortaya çıkmıştır; yargı varken böyle bir adalet arayışı niye lazımdır; farklı ülke örnekleri nelerdir; geçiş dönemi adaleti Türkiye’de nasıl uygulanabilir; hangi konulara öncelik vermek gerekir?
Dönüşüm koçluğu nedir; kişinin kendi değerlerini fark etmesinin, dinlemesinin ihtilaf çözümü alanında ona nasıl bir faydası olabilir; özellikle ilişkilerde anda kalmak nedir gibi konuları ele aldık.
Kampüs veya öğrenci ombudsluğu nedir; Türkiye'de nerede ve nasıl başladı; öğrenciler ombudsluğa hangi sorunlar için başvuruyor; Türkiye’de bu kurumun geleceği nedir?
What is hostage negotiation; why is it needed; how does stress effect our decision making; how can a police negotiator help a hostage taker to make rational decisions; how does a hostage negotiation course look like; when does most hostage taking occurs?
Türkiye’de aile arabuluculuğu sık sık gündeme gelmesine rağmen konuyu çocukların yüksek yararı veya refahı üstünden konuşmuyoruz. Florida'da çocuk korumada arabuluculuktan nasıl faydalanılıyor? Hizmet planı nedir? Çocuk koruma alanında arabuluculuk yapmak için hukuk okumak veya vatandaşlık niye gerekli değil? Arabuluculuk etik kurallarının amacı nedir?
