Rebel Parenting with Ryan & Laura Dobson
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In this video, Ryan Dobson discusses the importance of deescalation as a crucial skill for navigating conflicts with children. He provides strategies for staying calm, using positive language, listening actively, validating feelings, offering options, and taking breaks to help defuse tensions and find resolutions. This video encourages parents to work on their deescalation skills in order to improve communication and strengthen relationships with their children.
In this video, Ryan Dobson discusses the importance of looking for context when trying to understand and build relationships with our children. By asking open-ended questions, validating their feelings, looking for patterns in their behavior, and seeking out additional resources, we can gain a deeper understanding of our children's actions and support them in developing healthy coping strategies. This video encourages parents to take the time to consider the context surrounding their children's behavior in order to show them love and support.
In this special edition of REBEL Parenting, Ryan is joined in the studio by his 10-year-old daughter, Luci, to discuss the new Wingfeather Saga animated series. Ryan also interviews the author, Andrew Peterson, and illustrator Chris Wall on set at the red carpet, premier in Nashville, TN.
In this video, we're going to discuss Rebel Parents: how they model good behavior & why other parents should follow their lead. Rebel parents are those who buck the norm and try to do things their own way. They're not afraid to speak their minds and they often set an example for other parents to follow. In this video, we're going to discuss why they're a force to be reckoned with and how you can learn from their example.
In this video, I'm sharing 8 reasons why it is more important to listen to your child than to talk to them. Listening is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. Not only does it help build a strong relationship with your child, but it also helps them to develop communication skills. By listening to your child, you can help them to feel understood and secure in their relationships. So whether you're trying to solve a problem or just have a conversation, make sure to listen carefully! It may just be the best thing you can do for your child! In this video, I'm sharing 8 reasons why it is more important to listen to your child than to talk to them. Listening is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. Not only does it help build a strong relationship with your child, but it also helps them to develop communication skills. By listening to your child, you can help them to feel understood and secure in their relationships. So whether you're trying to solve a problem or just have a conversation, make sure to listen carefully! It may just be the best thing you can do for your child!
In this short video, I'm explaining why Rebel Parents value their spouse's input. This is an important message to share because it shows that we are not alone in our struggles and that there is help available. We all face unique challenges as parents, and it's important to have support and advice from those closest to us. That's why Rebel Parents value their spouse's input so much! As a married couple, we understand the importance of communication and collaboration, and we're here to help you through whatever Challenges you face as a parent. Thank you for watching!
Hi Everyone, I’m Ryan Dobson, and this is REBEL Parenting FIVE MINUTES OR LESS. Thank you to you, our supporters, and our sponsors, CovenantEyes.com lose the porn, improve your life. Code REBEL = free month, and new sponsor Gabb Wireless @ gabbwireless.com This is the smart watch I use with Luci. We love it. It’s the world’s safest smart watch & phone! Head to GabbWireless.com http://GabbWireless.com use code REBEL for a free smart phone &/or a free smart watch. Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.” When my children were young I was so ashamed of my parenting. It was such a dark place to be. Can you imagine how different my relationship with my kids is now that I see parenting as a reward! I want you to see parenting as a reward too, and one thing that helps me be a better parent, is REBEL Parents know, GET to be good parents, they don’t HAVE to be good parents. Saturday, March 14 I got a call informing me that my contract job was being canceled due to the lockdown… It was 6 months before I got steady work again, and let me tell you since that time, I’ve never “HAD” to go to work again. I GET to go to work!! WOO! So, how do you show this to your kids? Start by truly appreciating the time you have with your kids. I was at a friend’s house Saturday night watching the UFC fights. Lincoln came with me and was planning on spending the night with his friend. I left around 11:30pm. An hour later I got a text from Lincoln asking if I was “still up?” I knew what was coming. He wanted to be picked up. Now, I didn’t have to pick him up. He planned to spend the night, I was ready for bed, and it was 12 degrees out. Who wants to go out in that? ME! Of course I picked up my son at nearly 1:00 o-clock in the morning. Because, as soon as he gets his driver’s license, I’ll never GET to do this again. The time slips by so quickly. Try not to wast it. Go tell your kids how much you love them and how much you love being their parent. Thank you for supporting REBEL Parenting, you can donate online at REBELParenting.org http://REBELParenting.org click the donate tab. Also TY to GABBwireless.com http://GABBwireless.com use code REBEL for a free smart phone &/or a free smart watch. And, CovenantEyes.com http://CovenantEyes.com lose the porn, improve your life. God Bless, have a great week. We believe in you, and so does God.
Welcome to REBEL Parenting, I’m your host Ryan Dobson. Laura is still out recovering from cancer surgery. Prayers and support appreciated. Thank you to our sponsors and donors! CovenantEyes.com / REBELParenting.org “donate” Let’s pull the pin!! I don’t believe there is any Biblical basis for spanking that uses pain as a form of discipline. If you can prove me wrong, I invite you to do so. Please use data and research, not your personal feelings. I’m not using my feelings, or my own thoughts to defend my position. I am using the Torah, Talmud, Bava Batra, and past and present Jewish *Rebbe’s, Rabbi’s, scholars and the like. Aish.com “Sparing the Rod” Under very specific circumstances, the Torah permits physical punishment. While normally we are prohibited from striking anyone (Talmud on Deuteronomy 25:3), the Torah permits a parent to strike a minor child (Shulchan Aruch HaRav, Choshen Mishpat, Hilchos Nizkei Guf V' Nefesh).A parent is forbidden to strike an older child, above bar/bat mitzvah age, (Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Deah, 240:20) because it is tantamount to putting a stumbling block before the blind. The older child will want to strike back, and we cannot cause him to transgress the Biblical prohibition of striking a parent. Rabbi Wolbe explains that there are two rods in the verse, "He that spares the rod hates his child" (Proverbs 13:24) -- violent ones and pleasant ones. Instead of reading this verse as an obligation to punish our children, we should consider which rod is the more effective one in teaching our children correct behavior. When is a parent allowed to strike a minor child? Only when it is going to have educative value and only when it is not done from a position of anger. We are allowed to feign anger, but we should not have real anger. A child can only be hit with something light which will not actually hurt him, like a shoestring (Bava Batra 21 A), and not repeatedly (Even Shleimah 6:4 ). What is the Bava Batra? How old is it? What is it used for? Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe, a distinguished educator and ethicist in Jerusalem, explains that punishment can be destructive "because children generally operate in two mutually exclusive modes: __ __ Punishment often flips children out of the learning mode and into the obedience mode. When we punish children, we succeed in immediately stimulating the external behavior we seek, but we risk stunting the internal growth that could permanently change the child and produce good behavior over the long term" (Planting and Building: Raising a Jewish Child p.81). We must also take into account the permanent damage that can be done to the parent-child relationship when we try to control with force. Any kind of harshness will create an emotional distance between our children and us. Our children will be unable to learn from us when there is distance. They won't be open to our admonishments or our discussions. Most of us hit our children when we are angry or frustrated. We are not in control of the situation or ourselves. We are not educating. We are venting. Chabad.org “Spare the Rod?” One who spares his staff hates his child. What staff was King Solomon talking about? A staff is solid and doesn't change. A staff is used for support on one's way. For parenting rules to successfully show our children that we are trying to build them in ways that are good for them, the rules must be solid and consistent; they must support the growth of the children on their paths, and protect the needs of the parents. The staff is the "measuring stick" that the parent can use to show the child that there are realities, principles that obligate us all. Chabad.org “The Parenting Rod” The Torah refers to Israel's tribes either as shevatim, "branches" or matot, "rods." Both terms express the concept that the twelve tribes of Israel are all branches or offshoots of the same root. But there is a not-so-subtle distinction between the two terms. A shevet is a supple, pliant branch. In our case, the Torah chooses the term mateh, which connotes a firm, inflexible stick. The basis of successful parenting is establishing matot—firm, unbending principles to guide our children. Children thrive on consistency, uniformity, and stability in their lives. They intuitively distinguish which standards and values we regard as essential and immutable and which can be challenged and negated. King Solomon teaches in Proverbs, "chosech shivto, soneh benoh" which literally means, "he who withholds his rod, hates his child" (hence the popular adage, "spare the rod and spoil the child"). The message of this wisdom for our times is that a loving, caring parent must imbue his child with conceptual rods—firm and unyielding principles to guide him through the bewildering paths of life. Children are not static creatures; they are vibrant, emotional individuals with developing intelligences and needs. Rules are meant to be constructive, not stifling and destructive, to create positive results while providing guidance to advance our children through life's journeys. Massei, means "journeys" and it chronicles the travels of the Jewish people in the Sinai dessert to their destination in the Holy Land. Unlike the rod, a journey is, by definition, not fixed and unyielding, but represents fluid movement, a passage forward towards a goal. On the face of it, these two principles of Matot and Massei seem contradictory. Matot instructs us to establish a steadfastness and immobility, like the strong non-pliant rod, while Massei encourages us to move forward, change, and transform. But in combining these two sections in a single reading, the Torah teaches us that both can, and should, be incorporated in our own approach to life. First establish Matot, strong, uncompromising values as a basis. The Torah guides us with definite rules of right and wrong, the permitted and the forbidden. But at the same time, the Torah provides a space and flexibility to accommodate unique needs. At times, small exceptions, detours, or a different approach must be explored for optimal growth, while still remaining true to essential principles. Chabad.org Video Rabbi Shmuel Lew “I wrote to the Rebbe that I’m very concerned about my own weakness of losing my temper, and even sometimes striking my children. I feel it’s bad in its own right, and bad for the effect it could have.” The Rebbe replied, “it’s about how you look at your children/students. Chabad is about contemplation. We believe every problem has a solution which comes about through cultivating the appropriate contemplation. One of the things to contemplate and to think into: is as much as these children are your children, even more so, they are God’s children. You would never strike the child of another human being; how much more so the children of God! To hit God’s child? Your hand should tremble before it hits God’s child!” I think it is possible to biblically spank a child, but it is hard to do. __ __ I do believe it is biblical but I don't read the same Proverb and conclude that I need a cattle rod in order to carry out punishment. I get the idea and nuance of what should be done. __ __ I'd love to know what he'd say about kids who don't seem to listen. Or how to get their attention without a spank. __ __ And I wonder if the mean spanks come after giving a kid incredible leeway and being pushed sooooo far without behavior stopping? __ __
For too long I've heard the saying (not scripture) "Spare the rod, Spoil the child" as the "Biblical" justification for spanking. Is this justification acceptable? What do the major Mega Ministries have to say about spanking? What about renowned American New Testament Scholar, Reformed Theologian, pastor and chancellor John Piper, what about Focus on the Family? I'm sure this is going to land me in hot water, and I just couldn't care less any more. Why hasn't anyone answered these two questions from the pulpit; 1. What is spanking? What is the Biblical definition/justification for inflicting violence on our children? 2. What is a "last resort" and when do I know I've reached it? There isn't ONE "christian" parenting author, pastor, psychologist, or speaker who has answered these questions satisfactorily. It's high time someone did. Let's pull the pin and see what happens!! SPONSORS!! CovenantEyes.com Code "REBEL" for a free month!
I keep seeing books on "How to Discipline Your Children Better," and it's driving me crazy! This is a prime example of "trying to get the LAW to do what only GRACE can accomplish." Let's all learn how to LOVE each other better! You'll need far less discipline when you have the fruit of the Spirit! Thanks to CovenantEyes.com https://www.covenanteyes.com/ (code REBEL)
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Ryan and Laura are back! Ryan and Laura break down Chapter 3 in Paul David Tripp's book "Parenting." It's a great discussion of The Law vs Grace! Our Sponsors: Covenant Eyes (Code REBEL for a free month https://www.covenanteyes.com/), Summit (Christian Worldview Camp) http://summit.org, and YOU!! Our Monthly Donors!
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We have a great show for you today! We’re talking about MARRIAGE!! We decided that we would switch off topics each week between Parenting and Marriage. We’ve already started “Parenting,” by Paul Tripp, which we’ll continue next week. And, today we’re diving into one of our favorite books, “The Good News About Marriage,” by Shaunti Feldhahn! And, we’re also going to talk about how to have a better sex life. Don’t forget to LIKE and DESCRIBE! Thank You Sponsors: CovenantEyes.com https://www.covenanteyes.com/ and use the code “REBEL” for a free month! Also, a big thanks to all of our monthly sponsors! Join the REBEL Army at REBELParenting.org and click the donate tab! Alright, let's talk MARRIAGE!! What most people don’t know, but need to The Big Cultural Problem NEW STUDY ABOUT SEX!! Again, Bad News Isn’t Motivating! The Good News The Real Reason Pornography Hurts Your Sex Life
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Today, Ryan & Laura discuss the topic of grace from their upcoming book, "REBEL Parenting," & Paul Tripp's book, "Parenting" Chapter 2. Support Our Sponsors!! Join the REBEL Army, become a monthly supporter Covenant Eyes Code "REBEL" for a free Month! https://www.covenanteyes.com/
Welcome to the REBEL News Roundup: This is the program where we discuss cultural and government issues impacting the family. On today’s program we’ll discuss: What “Legacy Media'' vs “Modern Media”, The dangers of “Echo Chambers” in Legacy Media, Ukraine, Disney, our Southern Border, and a crisis of violence in the Police Force you aren’t expecting. Sponsors: Covenant Eyes.com (REBEL) free month https://www.covenanteyes.com/ Consider becoming a monthly donor at REBELParenting.org https://www.rebelparenting.org/p/donate/ __ __ Remember Stay Informed, Stay Involved
Welcome Back Laura Dobson aka: Hug Dealer, aka: the Atomic Mom! The Fruit of the Spirit in Parenting & Marriage Paul Tripp's "Parenting" Parenting is a "Calling!" SPONSORS: Become a Monthly Donor http://www.rebelparenting.org/p/donate summit.org (Code "REBEL22" for $100 off the summer program) https://www.summit.org CovenantEyes.com (Code "REBEL" for free Month) http://www.covenanteyes.com
Ryan continues with Kindness in Marriage, and... why it's hard! Don't give up, you can do this! Next we talk about REBEL Parenting! Here are some great ways to build your relationship with your kids through gratitude! You will get better results with gratitude than anger. New ways to reach kids at any age. Learning from our past mistakes in parenting will lead to closeness with our kids. "Kids will tell you 'everything' if you will listen to 'everything'" Ryan closes with a portion of next month's REBEL Upgrade, Paul Tripp's "Parenting" Can you guess the subject? :) Sponsory: www.Summit.org code "REBEL22" www.Covenanteyes.com code "REBEL"
Ryan delves into the latest news cycle, talks about "reasonable" vaxcine advice, & what we know so far. With the news of Neil Young & Joni Mitchel pulling their music from Spotify over Joe Rogan's "misinformation," Ryan talks about another possibile reason for the move. Did you know neither Neil Young nor Joni Mitchel own their musical catalog? If htey don't own it, then who made the decision to pull the music & WHY??
So thrilled at the survey response. Looks like in marriage people would like help with COMMUNICATION & SEX LIVES, and with kids, everyonen wants help in ALL areas! AMAZING! We're lining up the BEST guests to help with all of these issues! THANK YOU! Next we talk about the resistance you will encounter whenever you try to improve yourself & ANY situation. And, there is help! There is a great book titled, "The War of Art" that deals directly with this issue!
Showing kindness to your spouse can transform your marriage! Ryan gives hard evidence that the practice of kindness can revolutionize your marriage. All links and resources found at www.rebelparenting.org
REBEL Parenting, the fastest path to a GREAT relationship with your kids! 1. Ryan discusses the REBEL Parenting mindset 2. Get To vs. Have To 3. Learning how to listen so that our kids will talk more!
Ryan talks about his recent accident, surgery, and healing process. Then, Ryan talks about his new book project which deals with MARRIAGE & PARENTING!! We start Part 1 in this series on how to repair, rebuild, strengthen, and fix relationships alone. Make your marriage better even when your spouse isn't on the same page. It works and it's awesome!!
Philosopher and apologist William Lane Craig from Reasonable Faith peers back into the past, attempting to discover the historical Adam. What can we know? Listen to every episode of the Dr. Jeff Show wherever you listen to podcasts. More episodes of the Dr. Jeff Show on YouTube: bit.ly/3flbj2j More about Summit Ministries: www.summit.org Summit Student Conferences: https://bit.ly/3iQB6D2
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Ryan & Laura started off their marriage with BAGGAGE!! Ryan had been married & divorced and Laura's parents divorced when she was in High School. How do two broken people make a marriage and family work? By INVESTING in their marriage! The investment is WORTH IT!! rebelparenting.org for more info
On today's episode Ryan dives into the science of learning. When learning something new, often the process involves feeling and looking silly or foolish. When we avoid those feelings it halts our learning process. Our kids go through this all the time throughout childhood and adolescence. We can foster a lifetime of learning if we can teach ourselves and our children to embrace these feelings by example. The tool is board games. Don't miss this engaging episode.
