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We hear them all the time. Famous sayings about love and marriage. And while it all sounds accurate on paper, what does the research say? Myths like: "My soul mate is out there somewhere!" "Once a cheater, always a cheater." "Good sex in the beginning of your marriage means great sex for the rest of the marriage!" Whether they are true or untrue, what can we learn from them? Lets talk about it in todays episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, KIMBERLY BEAM HOLMES, and founder of Marriage Helper, DR. JOE BEAM. Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way. Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you! For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/. Visit marriagehelper.com/drjoe https://marriagehelper.com/drjoe/ to sign up for the in-person workshop on November 18-20
Disclaimer: Marriage Helper does not recommend the drinking of arsenic or other harmful chemicals not intended for consumption. Often times we hear people say, "try before you buy!" But will having sex before marriage the best idea? Will it help or hurt your marriage in the long run? Thats what we talk about on todays episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, KIMBERLY BEAM HOLMES, and founder of Marriage Helper, DR. JOE BEAM. Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way. Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you! For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/. Visit marriagehelper.com/drjoe https://marriagehelper.com/drjoe/ to sign up for the in-person workshop on November 18-20
Will living together before the marriage actually help your relationship? Its a frequently asked question and also a common misconception. Thats what we talk about on todays episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, KIMBERLY BEAM HOLMES, and founder of Marriage Helper, DR. JOE BEAM. Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way. Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you! For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/.
Being able to communicate with your spouse is a key component of a healthy marriage. But what if you dont know how to communicate? Is there really a secret to it? Find out on todays episode of Relationship Radio, hosted by CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, and founder of Marriage Helper, Dr. Joe Beam. Regardless of your situation, what we teach will not only make your relationships better, but will also help you to become the best version of yourself along the way. Relationship Radio is released every Wednesday and is an extension of Marriage Helper. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review. We love hearing from you! For more resources about your specific situation, visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/.
According to government statistics, a large percentage of marriages in America fail. But you dont want yours to fail. So maybe we can learn about how to make a marriage better and last longer, if we understand the primary reasons that a marriage will fail. So what are the reasons that causes for most marriage failures? Lets talk about it in todays episode of Relationship Radio with Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes of Marriage Helper International. Visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/ for more information!
Divorce is hard. Its a complicated, often messy process, but when children are involved, it becomes much more difficult. Today on Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam-Holmes discuss the many different ways that divorce can affect children and why you should ALWAYS consider the kids when thinking of divorce. Dont forget to send this to a friend or family member, and consider leaving us a 5-star review! 800-799-7233 https://www.thehotline.org/ For more information on our 3 day intensive workshop, go to marriagehelper.com/workshops https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/ For more information on coaching and courses, please visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/
It could be different beliefs about religion, politics, sex or a million other things. But one thing is true; you and your spouse have a completely different set of beliefs and values, and you want to figure out how to have a healthy marriage and relationship despite those differences. It might be difficult to imagine being married to someone who has such core differences than you do, but living in line with your beliefs and values can actually make the other person extremely attractive, and vice versa. In todays episode of Relationship Radio, we teach you how to love and respect your spouse even when they have a completely different set of beliefs than you do. Is it possible to have a great marriage regardless? The answer is... YES! And we will teach you how. Click here to join The Foundations Course https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-deal-with-different-beliefs-and-values-in-marriage!
When you dont agree with your spouse, it can be incredibly frustrating. It might be something where you absolutely HAVE TO come to some sort of resolution, but you are both hard set in your views. Handling divisive topics in marriage is extremely important. On one hand, you want to be able to learn how to have healthy compromise with one another. On the other hand, you dont want to go against your own beliefs and values or to become a doormat for your spouse to run right over you and control the situation. So in todays episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about how to handle divisive topics in marriage. Get ready to take some notes! Click here to join The Foundations Course https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-handle-divisive-topics-in-marriage!
Youre worried about a looming recession that everyone keeps talking about. But how do you prevent a recession from ruining your marriage and relationship with your spouse? There are a few things you need to consider talking about with your spouse before anything like this happens to the world. It could mean the difference between coming closer together or drifting apart. The ultimate goal is to have a great marriage no matter what the state the world is in, or your own financial status. In todays episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about how to prevent a looming recession from ruining your marriage. You dont want to miss it. Get our FREE Mini Course “How To Get Your Spouse Back https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=mini-course&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-prevent-a-recession-from-ruining-your-marriage” Click here to join The Foundations Course https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-prevent-a-recession-from-ruining-your-marriage!
Separation or divorce in marriage is difficult enough as it is. But telling your children about whats going on is even more difficult. If you are struggling with the idea of how to explain to your children whats going on, then this is for you. There are many factors that affect how you should approach the children. Some of which include their age, whos children they are (if you had children prior to marrying one another), and most importantly the fact that you should avoid using visuals to explain things to your children. We will cover everything to do, and NOT do, in todays episode of Relationship Radio. Begin by laying a firm foundation to repairing your marriage by joining The Foundations Course https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-tell-your-children-about-divorce today!
An open marriage is when both partners agree that each may have sexual relations with others. But is it a good idea? You or your spouse is considering the idea of having an open marriage, but you want to know what youre getting into before you commit to it. So, what are the pros and cons? In todays episode of Relationship Radio, we talk about whether or not having an open marriage is a good idea and give you everything you need to know before agreeing to this type of relationship status with your spouse. Click here for more information about our Couples Workshop https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=is-having-an-open-marriage-a-good-idea-pros-vs-cons or our Solo Spouse Workshop https://marriagehelper.com/solo-spouse-workshop/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=is-having-an-open-marriage-a-good-idea-pros-vs-cons.
Your spouse believes you had an affair. Youve done nothing wrong, but you cant convince them otherwise. Maybe you believe or have evidence that suggests your spouse is the one having an affair, and now youve pointed fingers, only to hear your spouse getting defensive and denying the affair. How should you respond? In recent news headlines, Elon Musk (Founder of SpaceX & CEO of Tesla) was recently accused by Sergey Brin (co-founder of Google) for having an affair with Anne Wojcicki (wife of Sergey). While the allegations have yet to be determined, this story sounded all too familiar from the thousands of couples we work with here at Marriage Helper. We wanted to take this moment in history to educate and explain what to do if you have found yourself in this exact situation. The advice we give might surprise you! Visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-respond-when-being-accused-of-an-affair-what-we-can-learn-from-elon-musk to purchase the Foundations Course! https://marriagehelper.com/the-foundations-course/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=tfc&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=how-to-respond-when-being-accused-of-an-affair-what-we-can-learn-from-elon-musk
Most of the time, when we hear about a marriage affected by an affair, the partner who was cheated on asks us to help them understand if they should try to save the marriage. And if so, how? If the straying spouse is still out somewhere, is there some way to get them to return to the marriage? But, a certain number of calls we get are just the opposite. The spouse who cheated has now come to their senses and said, "Wow, I want to save the marriage. But my spouse either isnt sure they want to, or theyve made up their mind. No, they can never forgive me for what I did. So, is there any hope for putting my marriage back together?" Actually, there is. And well talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio. To sign up for a workshop, click the links below! Couples Workshop https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=cheating-spouse-wants-to-save-the-marriage Solo Spouse Workshop https://marriagehelper.com/solo-spouse-workshop/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=mktg&utm_content=cheating-spouse-wants-to-save-the-marriage
We know that sex is a part of marriage. We also know that sex doesnt always occur in marriage. But what about your marriage? Perhaps you want to be making love to your spouse, but when you attempt it, your spouse doesnt want it to occur. And you feel that youve been sexually rejected or are continually being sexually rejected by your spouse. What do you do about that? Well talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio. For more information on courses, workshops and coaching, visit marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/. Learn how to become the most attractive YOU can be. Join the Your Best Self Collection today to experience transformation in your life! Head over to marriagehelper.com/self https://marriagehelper.com/your-best-self-toolkit-collection-sale-pod/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=redirect&utm_campaign=ybs&utm_term=kbh&utm_content=july-2022-podcast-ad-ybs-sale and enter code "PODCAST" at checkout!
One of the most common questions we get here at Marriage Helper is, "Were having marital problems, but my spouse still wants to sleep with me." Now, sometimes that just means sleep. Maybe they want to be in the same bed. But more often, that question means, "My spouse wants to have sex with me. What do you think? Should I have sex with my spouse after they cheated on me?" There are definitely pros and cons to this decision, and it should not be made lightly. We discuss that and how you can choose a path forward on this episode of Relationship Radio. Learn how to become the most attractive YOU can be. Join the Your Best Self Collection today to experience transformation in your life! Head over to marriagehelper.com/self https://marriagehelper.com/your-best-self-toolkit-collection-sale-pod/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=redirect&utm_campaign=ybs&utm_term=kbh&utm_content=july-2022-podcast-ad-ybs-sale and enter code "PODCAST" at checkout!
On this episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Annette; a client who found Marriage Helper in the midst of her marriage crisis. Annette talks about how Marriage Helper was essential in helping her find the strength to stand for her marriage, better herself, and still have hope for her future. Has your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you. Visit marriagehelper.com/lost https://marriagehelper.com/workshop-webinar/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=redirect&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=kbh&utm_content=june-2022-podcast-pre-roll-ad to sign up today!
While marriage might be between two people, many other people can influence it. For example, parents, siblings, and even distant relatives can positively and negatively affect your marriage. Your family may lead you down the right path 99% of the time because they care about you. But biased people and biased advice can lead you to make poor decisions. This is especially true if you’re having troubles in your marriage. If you’ve determined that you can set enough STOPs and COREs that it’s safe to return to your relationship, you will have to stand firm against your family. You’ll get pushback from them, but set your parameters and expectations and stick to them. Demonstrate the changes that you make to everyone involved. The families involved are more likely to accept and support the marriage when they believe its a healthy marriage for both people. Has your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you. Visit marriagehelper.com/lost https://marriagehelper.com/workshop-webinar/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=redirect&utm_campaign=workshop&utm_term=kbh&utm_content=june-2022-podcast-pre-roll-ad to sign up today!
We often hear that a couple can’t start to reconcile their marriage because one of them is too ashamed. They might have had an affair, gambled away their money, or had an addiction problem, and now they feel like their spouse won’t forgive them. Guilt can be a positive thing if it helps us realize we need to change. But long-term guilt can lead to a sense of shame that can affect your sense of self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem, and your physiology. People experiencing deep shame have to first realize what they are feeling before they can begin to heal. There are still ways that your spouse can help. Using SMART contact can help you remember to avoid PUSH behaviors, respond in a kind, strong, and gentle way, and take it one day at a time. Visit www.marriagehelper.com https://marriagehelper.com/ for more information on workshops, courses and coaching.
If you’re going through a separation or a divorce, your spouse may have stopped wanting to communicate with you. At Marriage Helper, we’ve developed a method called SMART contact that we built just for this situation. SMART contact is an acronym that we use to describe the process a person can go through when they are trying to teach themselves how to best communicate with their spouse. SMART contact works. But even if you do everything right, your spouse has the free will to choose not to respond and continue leaving the marriage. But using this framework is the healthiest way of communicating, especially in a marriage in crisis. Communication in your marriage did not fall apart overnight, and it will not magically be repaired overnight either. Read further to see what SMART contact stands for and how it can be used to rebuild positive communication.
In this episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Rozanne; a Marriage Helper client who sought help after going through some difficult problems in her marriage. Hidden addictions, poor communication, and other issues were leading them towards disaster. She later found out that there was a secret affair going on between her husband and another woman. Rozanne found Marriage Helper and has since started to find a renewed hope for her marriage. Listen in on this episode of Relationship Radio as we talk with Roseanne about her story and hear why she still has so much hope for the future despite her past.
Forgiveness can be difficult to both give and receive. When we’ve been hurt, especially by a loved one, that pain will take time to heal. The first and most important key to remember is that you can’t force forgiveness. Accept that your spouse has the right to forgive you or not. But is there a way to get your spouse to forgive you? Forgiveness must be earned. You can take several actions to aid this process, but everyone grieves at a different pace. Continuing to apologize might do more damage to your marriage than good. So, after you clearly, sincerely, and humbly apologize, continue to work on being the best version of yourself through working on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction. Episode Mentions: Marriage Helper Workshops - https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/ Spark of Life - https://www.sparkoflife.org/ Visit marriagehelper.com for more information on workshops, courses, and coaching.
Has your spouse ever given you an ultimatum? Have you given your spouse one? Not all types of ultimatums can be bad. Your motive behind them is what’s important. Are you trying to control them, or are you trying to protect them or your loved ones from their destructive behavior? An ultimatum says that a specific thing needs to stop or occur in a certain time frame; otherwise, a negative consequence will be the result. People react to demands such as this differently. There are psychological reasons behind this that start to develop when we are as small as two-years-old. The desire to follow your own free will is why ultimatums often get a negative response. However, that doesn’t mean that they don’t have their uses.
It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what theyre doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesnt even want to do that? Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view. How do you get your spouse to understand you? This is part 2 of "How Do I Get My Spouse To Understand Me." For part one, listen here - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1725542/10594625 Episode mentions: The Exploring Reconciliation Course is available by speaking to a Client Representative either via the chat at the bottom of marriagehelper.com or by calling 1-866-903-0990. Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/
The experiences and traumas from your past can significantly impact your current life and marriage. This week, our Director of Marketing, Gemma sits down with Shel to discuss the tumultuous times that caused her marriage to fall apart and how she’s using Marriage Helper to try and rebuild herself and her marriage. Shel discusses both of their parents’ past use of drugs and how that affected them differently, the stresses of 12 years of failed conception, and how depression played a part in their problems. She has realized through these struggles that the picture she had for her life might have only been part of the picture. And while shes still mired in the troubles of her marriage, she sees the hope for her future.
It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what theyre doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesnt even want to do that? How do you get your spouse to understand you? Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view. Mentions: SMART Contact Toolkit: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/ Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/
Reconciling a marriage is a long and challenging process. You may feel at times that you and your spouse are getting along and becoming close again. Yet, other times you might feel them pulling back. So how do you handle these cycles of emotion or false starts? Today, we look at four steps to avoid false reconciliations when trying to repair your marriage. We look at the reasons these can occur, how you can reset this path with STOPs and CORES, and use PIES to work on yourself and look for long-term, lasting damage for both you and your children
Divorce can be as painful and confusing for your children as it is for you. If youve realized "my children wont talk to my spouse," theres still hope. Research from all over the world has proven that marital issues, when children are involved, affect them as well. After divorce occurs, 25% of fathers will no longer see their child after the first year. This percentage increases to 50% around the five to the ten-year mark. So, how can you help to mitigate those chances? How can you help your children’s relationship with your spouse? Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio for the four options to help ensure your children still feel loved and lovely. Forgiveness is a crucial part of letting go of the anger you have toward another person. Reconciliation is optional, but there are many times when it is the best decision to heal the relationship. Especially if there are children involved. Download our free eBook The Ultimate Guide To Reconciliation https://your.marriagehelper.com/ultimate-guide-to-reconciliation-ebook-sign-up.
Marriages require time and attention to nurture and grow. That can be easier said than done with all the obstacles of daily life. Derrick from Texas found this out the hard way. Derrick’s marriage was tested early when he was forced to spend time away from a growing family due to his time in the military. Gemma sits down with Derrick to discuss how he met his wife, where their relationship troubles started, how he’s used Marriage Helper to try and heal their wounds, and how he got his reluctant spouse to come to the Marriage Helper Workshop.
Preparing to have a difficult conversation with your spouse can be nerve-racking and stressful. In most cases, you can already assume that they will react negatively to it. Is there anything you can do to make the situation easier? In this episode of Relationship Radio, we’ll discuss the "two Es" of being prepared, environment, and emotion. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down why each is so important and what you can bring to the table in the way of solutions. The goal of every conversation should be to listen. So, practice your listening skills and take some notes on how to talk about hard things with your spouse.
Communication is a vital part of any marriage. But what is communication? Speaking to each other every day about bills and mundane happenings isnt enough. So, what do you do when your spouse refuses to communicate with you anymore? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss how to improve your communication skills in this episode of Relationship Radio. Taking a look at how you might be contributing to the rift should be your first step. Look at your body language, your responses, and if you’re genuinely listening when your spouse is talking. Tune in to find out all the ways that Marriage Helper can get the communication flowing again in your relationship.
