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Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is a New York-based psychotherapist behind the popular Recollected Self brand. Jaime shares her transformative journey from a turbulent young adulthood to finding her true voice, embracing self-compassion, and empowering others to do the same. Discover how facing one's past with courage can illuminate the path to authentic living. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace healing from trauma and toxic relationships for personal growth and empowerment. * Discover mental health education's impact on social media for a more informed and mindful approach to well-being. * Recognize the profound effects of cult-like experiences on mental health to understand and address their lasting impact. * Implement strategies for personal growth and self-compassion to foster a positive and resilient mindset. * Embrace critical thinking in therapy and coaching to empower informed decision-making and personal development.
Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life. * Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential. * Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment. * Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth. * Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life. "You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this moment. Why? Because you're opening your future up to be amazing then, because that is how magic happens." ~ Tracy Crossley
Listen to a cancer survivor and former corporate employee who found her purpose through personal challenges. Join Tracy as she sits down with Courtney Elmer, the visionary behind The Effortless Life and the Antifragile Entrepreneurship podcast. Courtney reveals how she went from silencing her voice to reclaiming it, and how she leveraged entrepreneurial antifragility to create positive change. But here's the twist - she discovered her true calling in a way that you wouldn’t expect. In this episode, you will be able to: * Gain valuable insights on leveraging podcasts for business visibility and growth. * Discover the power of entrepreneurial antifragility in overcoming adversity and thriving in business. * Learn effective strategies for navigating career transitions and making a successful shift to entrepreneurship. * Uncover the transformative potential of finding purpose through personal challenges in your entrepreneurial journey. * Explore innovative strategies for increasing podcast audience engagement and building a loyal listener base. "When you're going through something difficult, we want answers. We want clarity. We want definitive yes or no. So we know how to move forward. It brings us relief. But a lot of times, the reality is we don't have that answer." - Courtney Elmer
It’s that time folks! Tracy dives into a deeply personal journey of self-discovery and resilience. From unexpected life events to emotional struggles, Tracy shares her raw and unfiltered experiences, unveiling the surprising impact of stress on her life. While Tracy reveals her stuff around guilt, inner peace, and transforming her business, she will also lead you through an exercise in relieving yourself of stress. Join her for a newfound perspective on personal growth. In this episode, you will be able to: - Explore the depths of emotional well-being and relationships for a more fulfilling life. - Uncover the impact of stress on your well-being and how to effectively manage it. - Learn effective strategies for coping with life's challenges and emerging stronger. - Build resilience through the power of emotional processing for inner strength. - Embark on a journey of self-awareness to foster personal growth and empowerment. I don't need to be married to the stress just because shit is happening doesn't mean I need to be stressed by it. ~ Tracy Crossley
If you're feeling the nagging sense that something is missing in your life, like you're stuck in the same old patterns and stories, then you are not alone! Maybe you're telling yourself that your life is good, but deep down, there's a yearning for something more. You might have been seeking advice from others, asking for their opinions on decisions like dating or career choices, only to find yourself stuck in the same place, unable to break free from the obstacles you've created. It's time to uncover what's holding you back and take the courageous step towards authentic growth and relationships. In this episode, you will be able to: * Explore the complexities of human emotions and relationships for deeper understanding and meaningful connections. * Unlock the importance of self-awareness and personal growth for a more fulfilling life and authentic relationships. * Overcome self-deception to uncover your true potential and live a more authentic and purposeful life. * Cultivate courage and self-love in relationships to foster genuine and lasting connections. * Discover the power of soul plan readings for gaining self-understanding and clarity on life's purpose. So stand up and be in your own two shoes and commit to yourself. Because every time I'm vulnerable, I'm committed to myself. And that means that if I commit to myself, I can commit to other things as well. - Tracy Crossley
Join Tracy as she welcomes Marni Battista, a powerhouse entrepreneur, author, transformational coach, and radical truth seeker. Marni's captivating stories of triumph, paired with her unique ability to drop wisdom that's as profound as it is humorous, will not only entertain but also deeply transform your perspective on life. With experiences ranging from heartwarming essays in prestigious publications to appearances on shows like Dr. Phil and Loveline with Dr. Drew, Marni shares her journey of radical living alongside her husband and two cats, Simon and Fergus Katz, as they traverse the globe. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that's bound to inspire you to stop merely existing and start living a life beyond your wildest dreams.
If you're feeling like you're constantly blaming others for your unhappiness and not taking control of your own life, then you are not alone! Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-punishment and unfulfillment, despite your efforts to work on yourself? It's time to break free from this pattern and take extreme self-responsibility for your own happiness. Let's explore how you can transform your life by embracing self-responsibility and finding inner peace. In this episode, you will be able to: * Cultivate happiness and self-responsibility for a fulfilling life. * Embrace vulnerability and self-reflection to unlock personal growth. * Release blame and excuses to reclaim empowerment and control. * Prioritize personal happiness and improve decision-making for a more fulfilling life. * Accept help and support to enhance well-being and success.
Listen in to hear more about the nuances of intuition, the obstacles of ego, and the transformative power of love in our daily lives. Tracy speaks with Dr. Helané Wahbeh, a renowned naturopathic doctor and the Director of Research at the Institute of Noetic Sciences and an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at Oregon Health & Science University. Discover how Dr. Wahbeh's personal experiences and intuitive explorations led her to a career that seamlessly blends science with spirituality. They dive into shedding light on how our intentions can influence our physical world and well-being.
Stories, we all got them. How many of your stories are about you being the hero versus you being the loser? A lot of the stories that play as background music in our minds tends to be of the negative sort. What if she shows you how to dig deep into the power of self-validation? Tune into this episode as she talks about our focusing on problems, stops us from our dreams, and our potential. Let’s challenge the norms, and discover the joy of living a life that truly matters. Whether it's breaking free from unfulfilling jobs or toxic relationships, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your self-worth and creating a life filled with purpose and happiness.
Join Tracy and Dr. Garret Yount, an expert in molecular neurobiology and consciousness research, as they dive into the fascinating intersection of science and the mind. Dr. Yount recounts his teenage clairvoyant experience that ignited his passion for exploring consciousness and its mysteries. The discussion navigates through the realms of gene expression, epigenetics, and the profound impact of emotions and thoughts on our health. Dr. Yount also sheds light on his research into external qigong healing and the intriguing concept of vibes. The episode wraps up with insights from his book "Why Vibes Matter," offering a beginner's guide to understanding and influencing vibes. Join this captivating journey into the depths of consciousness and its influence on our biological being.
Some people equate numbness with happiness. As long as nothing is poking at you screaming for your attention, you think all is right with the world, and you work hard to maintain this state. But when something triggers you, you can’t handle being out of control, so you scramble to get back to that safe space you THINK is happiness. Nope, it’s numbness, and it’s not where you want to live. Many people say they aren't control freaks, but their internal feelings tell a different story. If you feel anxious whenever you let loose, have fun or feel attracted to someone, that’s a sign of control. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to become more aware of this paradigm because many people delude themselves into thinking they’re happy when in fact they are just numb and trying to avoid being triggered. Happiness is not to be feared, but you need to let go of control in order to let it in. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can pretend numbness is peace and happiness or you can challenge yourself to lose control and have FUN, emotional intimacy and vulnerability! Uh yeah happiness!
Join Tracy as she interviews Joan Sotkin, the founder of Prosperity Place and a renowned author. Sotkin shares her intriguing journey from aspiring ballet dancer to a successful businesswoman and coach. She dives into her unique coaching approach, her experiences with healing, and her evolving understanding of health and diet. Sotkin emphasizes the importance of self-understanding and inner peace, offering valuable insights and resources from her website. Tune in for an episode filled with profound lessons on personal development and prosperity.
Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive, or too ANYTHING? Basically, instead of being loved for your whole self, did you feel like you were simply tolerated? Maybe you wondered, throughout your life, if people even liked being around you because those too much/not enough beliefs were always with you. So, to move from tolerance to love, you worked hard to prove yourself worthy of someone else’s company. And did those people (intimate partners, friends, family members, etc.) treasure you for the wonderful human you are? Probably not. Why? Because you didn’t treasure you. Self-love isn’t simply about spa visits, eating healthy, working out, or treating yourself to a new outfit. It is attention, connection, and awareness to yourself. And you cultivate it by slowing down, feeling your feelings, and choosing what makes you happy. When you love yourself, you have compassion for who you are, what you are, and why you are. And that is where true love with someone else begins… because love from another person won’t feel good unless you feel it for yourself first. As the new year approaches, it's the perfect time to reflect and embrace this journey of self-love. In this week’s podcast, I’ll share three questions to ask yourself to shift from external “give-it-to-me” love to true self-love. You deserve more, but to get it, you have to step up and show yourself some love. Let's make this new year a turning point for embracing and celebrating your true self. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Self-love comes from all the in-between moments, not the pinnacles! Let this new year be your catalyst for a journey of self-discovery and genuine self-appreciation.
You have spent your life doing for others, worried that if you don’t put them first, they’ll leave… or at the very least they’ll be mad at you. It’s exhausting, however, so you want to start prioritizing yourself and your growth. You know you’ll feel better, shed the resentment and have more energy, but what if the people in your life think you don’t need them anymore? What if they think you’re being selfish? It is NOT selfish to want to feel good. You are actually doing the world a favor by taking care of yourself because a happier you means a more pleasant person for others to be around. When you focus on how you feel, what lights you up and what you want, everyone benefits. How different would it feel to make decisions based on what you want rather than what someone else wants? How much lighter and energized would you feel? If you wait for permission to say no to someone else so you can say yes to yourself, you’ll be waiting forever. Stop believing people will leave in droves if you “selfishly” take care of yourself. The ones who do are a negative in your life, not a positive. You’re a kick-ass person who deserves to be happy. Decide you deserve your own love and attention. Do it selfishly and others will reap the benefits.
Join Tracy and Arnaud Delorme, a pioneering scientist in brain dynamics and spirituality, step into the intriguing world of consciousness, discussing how meditation and psychoactive agents impact our neural pathways. His research explores the complex relationship between the brain and consciousness. This episode also highlights Delorme's innovative work in neurofeedback and its transformative effects on meditation practices. Get a sneak peek into his latest book, 'Why Our Minds Wander,' offering practical strategies for managing the wandering mind during meditation.
Imagine what it would be like not to beat yourself up all the time, or to stop shaming yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. What would it be like to tell your inner critic to shut up, and instead make choices that feel good to you? I’ll tell you what it would feel like: it would be fabulous. I know this because that’s where I live now… although I used to have a very different address. I used to think my best life hinged on my partner. If things were great with him, my life would be peachy. Well, that’s not called fabulous; that’s called attachment. If you are making (bad) decisions because of the person you’re attached to, you are not living your best life. Those decisions come from fear of losing the relationship, not from love. They come from scarcity, not abundance. When you stay in attachment, your world becomes very small. In this week’s podcast I’ll help you identify what you actually want and start making decisions that feel good. Because you deserve fabulous!
Join Tracy as she interviews Maz Dela Cerna, a bestselling author and energy healer. Born into poverty in the Philippines, she faced unimaginable hardships, including homelessness, abuse, and addiction. Despite her traumatic past, she found hope and strength through spiritual experiences. She discusses her personal growth, her discovery of the law of attraction, and her work in helping others overcome their limiting beliefs and energetic blocks.
Ever feel overwhelmingly drawn to someone that the physical attraction is just insane? Where you know you are powerless to stop the descent into what is probably going to be complex and messy, but that magnetism to them has you out of your mind? Tracy dives deep into the complex world of attachment styles and how each one - avoidant, anxious, and more - uniquely intertwines with our sexual lives, often in ways we don't consciously realize. Tracy also explores the misconception that anxious attachment is purely emotional, revealing how it often manifests in the heightened intensity of sexual encounters. This episode is a journey into understanding why we may feel a magnetic pull towards certain partners and how this attraction can be misleading, mistaking intense physical connection for emotional depth. Yeah, sorry about that…as much as you might want him or her to be your soulmate, it might just be a physiological response to your conditioning.
Lynn McTaggart, an internationally recognized author and journalist known for her work on the intersection of science and spirituality joins Tracy. They take a deep dive into her journey from investigative journalism to spirituality, and her groundbreaking work on the power of group intention and consciousness. In this episode, she speaks about her experiments with scientists from various universities, which have shown significant positive effects. Lynn highlights the healing power of group intention, the importance of altruism, and the physiological effects of love. In addition to this insightful discussion, Lynn is launching a program called the "Intention Masterclass." It teaches intention mastery, by harnessing the incredible potential of intention in their daily lives. If you're intrigued by the idea of harnessing the power of intention and want to learn more about Lynn McTaggart's Intention Masterclass, you can visit her website at https://lynnemctaggart.com/courses/intention-masterclass/the-power-of-eight-intention-masterclass-2024/ .
Tracy and Jamie Scrimgeour, the host of the chart-topping "The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast, tackle the nuanced realities of step-parenting. It’s all about setting boundaries, when to disengage, and the long-term commitment required to forge strong family bonds. Jamie shares her own experiences, around her blended family. Tune in for a conversation that's as real as it gets, and discover why Jamie's voice has become a leading one in the step-parenting community.
The key to everything you want is that “spark!”It’s time to put disappointment on a shelf and not wear it like a sweater. Whether it's a relationship that's lost its spark or a job that is dragging you down, Tracy will show you how to break free. The beauty of this episode is that the power to have what you want is in your hands, it’s not up to others. Start living from that spark inside, so you sparkle and shine everywhere you go no matter who you are with. Tracy shares real-life examples and actionable steps to shift your focus inward.
Need inspiration? Nicole Walters, a former corporate powerhouse turned multi-million-dollar business owner and author of the upcoming memoir 'NOTHING IS MISSING: A MEMOIR OF LIVING BOLDLY,’ sat down with me to talk about juggling. Juggling roles. Challenges women face in the entrepreneurial world, from work-life balance to money mindset are no joke. Nicole shares her game-changing tips on how to 'ask boldly,' monetize your gifts, and why you should never, ever work for free. Don't miss this empowering conversation leaving you ready to conquer your world, your way!
For many people who are stuck, pain is what drives them to seek change. It could be a toxic relationship or yet another holiday spent alone. Maybe it’s wanting to finally escape not feeling good enough. But when anger and frustration are your only motivators, change isn’t very effective… and it doesn’t last. Especially if you’re changing yourself just to get someone else to change. Instead, you need to know why you’re not where you want to be, and have a deep desire to grow your self value. When you complain, blame and compare yourself to others, fear is running the show. And wanting to run away is often a sign that you need to stand still. In this week’s episode, I’ll share different questions you can ask yourself to evaluate your readiness for change. If you’re not there yet, that’s ok! Accepting where you are is an important first step. Once you are clear on what you want to change and why, you can start taking action in that direction. And THAT’S when meaningful change happens because there is a big difference between moving toward something you want, and moving away from something you don’t want.
Do you notice judgment in your life? Whether it's a complicated relationship, a challenging work environment, or your own inner critic, judgment is the block to true happiness. It keeps you stuck while eroding your self-trust and confidence. It comes from a deep-seated sense of lack and fear. You can break free! Tune in to discover actionable steps to dismantle the judgment that's holding you back from happiness. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll uncover in this episode: [1:25] Dive into the concept of breaking the cycle and discover how letting go of judgment can unlock your true happiness. [3:25] Learn why your judgments are keeping you stuck in dysfunctional relationships and clouding your clarity on what you truly want. [10:06] Explore the interconnectedness of fear, lack, judgment, confidence, and happiness, and how they shape your life. [12:09] Understand your soul's purpose: to have fun and expand, not contract out of fear. [14:09] Get real-life examples of how judgment impacts your relationships, business decisions, and dating life, and why awareness is the first step to overcoming it. [20:14] Trace back the roots of your judgments to your childhood and see how they're holding you back from your desires. [21:13] Realize that you often don't truly know others or even yourself, and learn the power of speaking your truth without blame. [22:05] Receive encouragement to let go of judgment, find the fun in life, and take actionable steps toward a judgment-free existence.
Anxiety isn’t the enemy—it sounds the alarm when fear comes up!. It provides a clue to your internal life. Where you lack trust, what you fear, what you don’t accept, etc. Forget solving it externally, it won’t work. Even if the situation stops causing anxiety, that sleeping bear still lives inside you. Anxiety grows when you hate it, disown it, try to reason with it and push it away. What’s the answer? Instead of running from it, sit with it. Check out this episode and in the meantime listen more deeply to what anxiety tells you.
I wonder if you know you’re in a ferris wheel cycle of problem-solving? Wonder why you're always focused on issues that get in the way of enjoying life? “He won’t commit, my job sucks, no matter how hard I try–something always gets in the way and so on.” In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the trap of living in "Problemville," where you're constantly seeking solutions but never finding peace. What's the real answer to all your problems? It's not another quick fix or strategy; it's a radical shift in perspective. Tracy challenges you to move from a state of lack to a state of abundance, from control to true awareness. Stop looking for problems and start living the life you truly desire.
Do you believe trust must be earned? Like your partner showing you their texts to prove he/she is dedicated. Trust isn’t about controlling what another person says or does, and it’s not something to be exchanged, like money. In fact, trust isn’t about other people at all—it’s about you. When you don’t trust yourself to handle a situation, you decide the other person is the problem. Trust occurs when words and actions match, and trust is broken when they don’t. You expect that from other people, but do you practice it yourself? In this episode we’ll talk about how to become the trustworthy person you expect others to be. And how it’s better to trust that you can handle life than to expect other people to change. Here’s a glance at this episode… [01:25] Trusting Yourself is Huge: Focus on trusting yourself rather than worrying about trusting others. [02:27] Words and Actions Must Match: Understand that trust is built when your words and actions align. Emphasize the need to match your own words and actions. [06:11] Being Emotionally Resilient: Trust yourself to be emotionally resilient and handle disappointment, rather than constantly blaming others and feeling victimized. [10:57] The Importance of Self-Trust: Realize that trusting yourself is crucial for building close and bonded relationships and avoiding unnecessary anxiety and control. [12:44] Taking Responsibility for Trust Issues: Recognize that building trust is not about the other person, but about your own choices and actions in a relationship. [18:13] Choosing Yourself Over Attachment: Examine why you cling to someone who is not ready to commit and realize the importance of choosing your own best interest. [20:52] Trusting Yourself and Accepting Circumstances: Emphasize the importance of loving yourself and making choices based on feelings rather than intellectualizing, and accepting circumstances in relationships. [21:47] The Way to Trust Yourself: Understand the importance of trusting yourself to handle situations, being responsible for your own feelings, and making better choices in relationships. [22:52] Being in the Present Moment and Learning from Mistakes: Highlight the significance of being present, taking responsibility for your feelings, learning from mistakes, and building self-trust.
Ever daydream? You know where you find yourself the superhero or some other fantasy? It’s called escapism. By looking at what is a fantasy you feel powerful rather than the humdrum of focusing on what is missing from your life. This episode dives deep into the invisible chains of avoidance that hold you back from living your fullest life. Using your imagination as a visualization is not to be discouraged, but using it to stay stuck in wishful thinking never changes anything. What's the big secret to unlocking your superpower? Stop avoiding and start living. For those ready to elevate their consciousness and escape the clutches of "attachment hell," this is your roadmap to freedom. Your superpower isn't a figment of your imagination; it's the key to a life well-lived. Activate your superpower today and change your life forever.
Join us in a riveting discussion on relationships, self-love, and personal growth with two exceptional women. Sherry Gaba, a licensed psychotherapist and life coach, is renowned for her expertise in codependency, love addiction, and trauma. As the author of "Love Smacked" and a frequent face on Vh1’s Celebrity Rehab, Sherry's dedication to mental health and recovery is unparalleled. On the other side, Carla Romo, a Professional Certified Coach and co-host of The Love Fix, transformed her life after overcoming toxic codependency at 24. With a passion for pushing individuals past their limitations, Carla's coaching has been recognized globally, from BRAVO to Cosmopolitan. Dive into their shared wisdom on modern dating, self-awareness, and the art of intentional relationships. Whether you're seeking love, understanding, or a fresh perspective, this episode promises enlightenment and empowerment.
Join Tracy as she engages in a riveting conversation with Steve Q. Wiltshire, a former Mr. Oregon Body Building champion who battled and overcame a life-altering autoimmune disease. Discover the magic of produce, and the transformative power of customized wellness plans. Steve, founder of Body Temple Health & Wellness, shares insights from his three-decade-long journey prioritizing fitness, health, and mindset. From personal tales of resilience to actionable health advice, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to reclaim their health and power. Tune in and be inspired by Steve's story.
