Bk Shivani, Sister Shivani, Shivani Didi, Sister Shivani With Suresh Oberoi
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Success is for who we are, not for what we achieve, highlights BK Shivani. If we are contented, we celebrate others’ achievements. A weak soul isn’t happy seeing other people get more. This jealousy doesn’t let us be at ease, and hence quickly aggravates. Having qualities like honesty, sincerity, caring and sharing means success. We need to separate success from achievements.
BK Shivani clarifies that the 'I' which wants success is the soul. When soul experiences qualities of love, compassion, happiness and cooperation, it is full. This is success. It is about how contented we feel and how much we empower others. The belief that success is about more marks, achievements, wealth and position, made us compete and compare. This depleted soul powers.
BK Shivani emphasizes that one aspect of life is outside in our actions, and another aspect of life is in our feelings – both are independent. If we are successful (in action), it is not necessary that we will be happy (feelings). But when we are happy, our state of mind promotes success. Happiness is independent of material possessions, people and circumstances.
BK Shivani clarifies about the essence of happiness and success. Happiness is a feeling which needs only a good thought. It doesn’t need achievements or possessions. What happens is that we create nice thoughts whenever we buy or achieve anything, and those thoughts create happiness. So many of us mistake achievements to be sources of happiness and success.
Emphasizing that every thought and word carry energy, BK Shivani explains that what we say after "I AM ___" shapes our destiny. Words like “I am busy” or “I am addicted” create that reality. When we say “Everything is simple, I am happy”, situations may be difficult but we will remain happy. If our thoughts and words are blessings, their vibrations manifest.
Join BK Shivani to understand how to live a life of awareness and choice, by controlling the mind. At every moment, either we control the mind or mind controls us. Once we take a decision, the mind may create thoughts of distraction. We should not succumb. Our determination increases willpower. The mind gets disciplined and starts following our instructions.
BK Shivani explains that when negative thoughts first appear, they are at their weakest potential. We should be able to spot first signs of emotional discomfort like irritation, hurt, jealousy and change the thoughts. Otherwise they radiate to the body and create a disease, radiate to people and create conflicts. We need to see it in its beginning stage in the mind.
Explaining dynamics of the Law Of Cause And Effect, BK Shivani shares that we need to take personal responsibility for the Cause (our past and present karmas), in order to accept the Effect (consequences). Only then we can work on settling karmic accounts. Else we question or complain about our situation, thereby complicating it and carrying it forward.
BK Shivani clarifies that when Karmic account is between two souls, we can support them and help them settle it. But we should be careful not to get entangled and create our Karmic account. Settling karmic accounts requires inner power apart from knowledge. Daily study of spiritual knowledge and meditation strengthen the soul and makes karmic settlement easy.
BK Shivani explores the effects of holding resentment towards people. It is an energy connection of hatred and pain. Breaking this energy needs the energy of forgiveness. Some people forgive big mistakes while others hold on to small incidents, depending on emotional capacity of the soul. When we don't forgive, our karmic energy exchange continues in present and future lives.
Join BK Shivani who highlights the need to release the past and stop repetitive patterns of guilt. We need to consciously empower ourselves daily to remain stable and face consequences of past Karmic account, the right way. Positive affirmations like - "I am a divine being" or "I am a powerful being" creates positive patterns, increasing soul power.
BK Shivani emphasizes that ‘Forgive and Forget’ is a sanskar we need to create, beginning with ourselves. Sometimes we understand and have compassion for others. But when we go wrong, we keep thinking and reliving the past. We stop loving the Self and make it difficult to live with the Self. These emotions deplete us and chances of making the mistake increases.
BK Shivani highlights the need for compassion for every soul. Understanding why people behave a certain way, make mistakes or do wrong to us - that they may be emotionally ill, may be victims of wrong sanskars, or driven by situations - we start accepting them. This is compassion. Creating compassion protects us from being uncomfortable about people and situations.
Join BK Shivani who says that when the soul is creating and experiencing any of its 7 qualities of purity, peace, happiness, love, power, knowledge and bliss, we feel comfortable. Without using these qualities, the soul gets suffocated. When the soul is healthy, desires reduce, relationships harmonize, addictions finish, and we do not seek people's approval and appreciation.
Our thoughts influence our physical health, emphasizes BK Shivani. If we keep thinking and talking about being unwell, the vibration slows down healing. Apart from medications, role of our family in healing matters. Our thoughts and words radiate to the body, and collective vibrations which we absorb, affects the body. We and the family needs to consciously create healing thoughts.
BK Shivani explains that Stress is equal to Pressure divided by Resilience. Situations are the pressures we face, and not in our control. Instead of focusing on how big the pressure is, we must focus on increasing Resilience (Inner Power) because that is in our control. A powerful soul creates only powerful thoughts which manifest into reality.
BK Shivani emphasizes that just as the body is made of five elements of nature, the soul is an embodiment of 7 qualities. For the Soul to be healthy, all 7 qualities should be emerged in thoughts, words and behaviour. Compassion which is our nature should be part of our daily living. It is for OUR OWN peace and wellbeing.
When someone makes a mistake, we need to separate the soul from his act, explains BK Shivani. "A good soul made a mistake" should be the only thought, this is UNDERSTANDING. Instead of calling the mistake wrong, if we label a person ‘Wrong’, our affirmation increases their chances of repeating the wrong karma. Eventually the wrong karma may become their sanskar.
BK Shivani shares that predictions made at birth do not portray our future, they are a reality of past Karmic accounts. If we keep referring to them in the present, then past will carry forward to the present and future. Our present Karma and environment have the power to overcome the past. Focusing on present thoughts influences our present and future destiny.
BK Shivani explains that we attach negative labels on children such as 'lazy', 'careless', 'moody’, believing they will realise and change. But children make it a part of their identity and belief system. Our vibrations create their reality and intensify that behavior. Let us put labels of the reality we desire - 'hardworking' instead of 'lazy' – and empower them.
Let us not invite negative energies into family and relationship issues, explains BK Shivani. Whenever there is a conflict or resentment, we need to use our own inner power to resolve it. Discussing the matter with other people (even family and friends) adds vibrations of their sanskars - at times anxiety, curiosity or judgment, and complicate situations.
Join BK Shivani who advises not to share our relationship problems with people. We explain only our perspective and not the other person's. Family and friends add their own perspectives and vibrations to our problem. They have pure intentions for our conflict to get resolved, but their anxiety, fear and anger radiate negativity to the foundation of our relationship.
BK Shivani shares that our thoughts and feelings radiate as vibrations. These vibrations when created for the self, change the self. When created for others, have the power to change them. Whether we see people's virtues or weakness, we accordingly radiate those vibrations to ourselves and them. When we focus on their weakness, we deplete them and our self.
BK Shivani explains why the way we see people is the way we think of them and treat them. Importantly, our vibrations reach them and shift them towards becoming that way. If someone has a sanskar of fear, see power in them - see, think, say and behave that way. Our vibrations emerge the sanskar of power in them.
BK Shivani emphasizes that conflicts cannot survive if even one of the two people stops participating. Conflict need not always be in behaviour, it can be due to our wrong thinking. We believe two people caused a conflict so both need to bring a change. Truth is, if one person radiates right thoughts to the relationship, conflict starts dissolving.
BK Shivani explains how thoughts and vibrations we create for people travel to them. Whether we are creating negative thoughts or receiving it from them, we have the power to change those thoughts. Right thoughts are a protection shield so that other people's negative thoughts don’t affect us. Our thoughts protect our mind, body, relationships and our work.
People are always under the influence of their sanskars, clarifies BK Shivani. No-one hurts us because of who we are, they behave that way because of who they are. We need to understand people's sanskars and have compassion by detaching from our perspective about the situation. Let us label their perspective as different, not wrong.
BK Shivani highlights that there can be differences of opinion between people, but we can keep the energy of respect intact. Radiating negative energy to each other depletes both people and intensifies the problem. Repeated thoughts of being disrespected or rejected get carried into future situations even with other people.
Respect is different from Regard, clarifies BK Shivani. Respect is in our thoughts and feelings of acceptance for people based on their sanskars. Regard is given for everything they have acquired. It is given in the way we talk and behave with them, as a protocol set by society. We can give regard without respecting, and vice versa.
BK Shivani shares that during a conflict, we try hard to explain our perspective, but people do not seem to understand or agree. When they hold on to their perspective, we create hurt and the negative energy intensifies the situation. Respect does not mean that people should obey what we ask them to do. Just because someone does not do what we tell them to do, does not mean they disrespect us.
