What really causes estrangement between parents and children, and how can you prevent it, especially after divorce?



In this episode of The Moving On Method, host Michelle Dempsey-Multack sits down with psychotherapist and author Whitney Goodman (aka @sitwithwit) to unpack the nuanced emotional dynamics that lead to parent-child estrangement.



From parentification to narcissistic family systems, Michelle and Whitney explore what it takes to be the safe, emotionally attuned parent your child needs, particularly when co-parenting in a high-conflict situation.



What You’ll Learn:



Why estrangement is becoming more openly discussed, and what’s actually driving it




How parentification harms children (even when well-intentioned)




The critical difference between protecting vs. over-sharing with your child




How to build emotional safety and connection during divorce or co-parenting




What “parenting without a roadmap” really means, and how to do it with confidence





Episode Highlights:



03:44 – Is estrangement really on the rise, or are we just talking about it more?

08:29 – The difference between abandonment and emotional cutoffs

13:52 – Why parents repeat unhealthy dynamics or swing too far in the other direction

19:41 – How to avoid parentifying your child during divorce

26:35 – “My child is my rock”: When closeness crosses emotional boundaries

31:18 – What to say when your child repeats something the other parent said

34:50 – Can you be a “safe parent” even if you can’t control the other home?

37:11 – Parenting through estrangement fears: What conscious parents need to hear



Meet the Guest:


Whitney Goodman, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Toxic Positivity. Best known for her online presence as @sitwithwit, Whitney helps individuals navigate family estrangement, generational trauma, and emotionally mature parenting through her work at callinghome.co.


Tools, Frameworks, and Concepts Mentioned:



Parenting Without a Roadmap – Whitney’s emotional navigation model for parents without healthy templates




Parentification – A breakdown of the emotional role-reversal between parent and child




Narcissistic Family Systems – Traits and long-term impacts




Emotional Maturity vs. Emotional Oversharing – Why kids need honesty with boundaries




Safe and Stable Parent Model – A guiding principle for high-conflict parenting





Closing Insight:


"Bad parents don’t worry about being bad parents. Conscious ones do."

Being afraid your child will resent you one day is a sign you’re already trying to parent with awareness. But trying isn’t enough; you need tools, insight, and support.



Want to learn more?

This in-depth and informative course from Michelle was created to address this topic: How to Safeguard Your Relationship With Your Children When You Have a High-Conflict Ex Spouse: https://community.momsmovingon.com/checkout/how-to-safeguard-your-relationship-with-your-children-when-you-have-a-high-conflict-ex-spouse-course



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