Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people.
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Highlights inside Episode 197 of Perfectionism Rewired:
00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short
02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside
04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up
06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS
07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL
07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback
08:11-Being a perfectionist in public
09:29-What really matters when support fails you
10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake
11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead?
HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733
- Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1
- Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776
Perfectionism Rewired Ethics + Transparency:
Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by Perfectionist Solutions and is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionism affirming lens.
What does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionism affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” and nobody is a victim of perfectionism. Instead you are fully in charge of YOU, given tools for agency and perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neurodiversity movement that sees no “correct” way for the brain to work and humans as unique individuals who all experience the world differently.
