How to know when searching for the perfect way to fix yourself is secretly holding you back and the 5 hidden dangers all driven high-performers want to be aware of. Discover why compulsively seeking more information to solve perfectionistic problems is actually self-sabotage and how you can upgrade obsessively finding the right answers to playfully pursuing the correct ones FOR YOU.
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Sneaky Peek at What You'll Learn In This Episode:
- Costumes procrastination and self-sabotage wear when you’re a perfectionist or high performer
- My high-performance strategy for effectively absorbing and implementing vital new information
- Why accumulating more information kills your progress + potential for growth
Featured On Episode 201:
Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 201 Timestamps:
00:00-Letting Go of Obsession with Finding the Right Answers
01:38-Iceberg Analogy of Perfectionism
02:10-Limitations of a Checklist Approach To Fixing Yourself
03:03-The Pitfalls of Overvaluing Knowledge
04:06-Procrastination + Self-Sabotage in Disguise
05:01-Integrating + Implementing Wisdom
06:10-The 3X Approach to Consuming Information
07:25-Mindful Consumption of Knowledge
09:18-Redefining Your Core Identity
10:15-Overcoming Self-Sabotage
Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:
Arnold, M., Mascha Goldschmitt, & Rigotti, T. (2023). Dealing with information overload: a comprehensive review. Frontiers in Psychology, 14. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1122200
Middlebrooks, C. D. (2017). Selectively Distracted: Divided Attention and Memory for Important Information - Catherine D. Middlebrooks, Tyson Kerr, Alan D. Castel, 2017. Retrieved January 14, 2024, from Psychological Science website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797617702502
Solms, L., Koen, J., A.E.M. van Vianen, Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., Anne, & Matthijs de Hoog. (2022). Simply effective? The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions in a self-coaching writing exercise. Frontiers in Psychology, 13. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.895439
Perfectionism Rewired Ethics + Transparency:
Perfectionism Rewired podcast is brought to you by Perfectionist Solutions and is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens.
What does Perfectionist Affirming mean? Perfectionism affirming is an empowered view where perfectionistic tendencies are not seen as deficits to be “fixed” and nobody is a victim of perfectionism. Instead you are fully in charge of YOU, given tools for agency and perfectionism is leveraged to work for you. Part of neuorinclusivity movement that sees all humans as uniquely wired individuals who all experience the world differently.
